Originally Posted by lostmyreligion View Post
^^^So much this.
Family does the most fvcked up crap. Blood particularly inflicts, I think, the most heinous damage to the betrayed on these boards.
If it turns out he's betrayed you as well, be thankful that you're proof that a predilection to deception wasn't a dominant genetic trait and move on.
Genes do not morally bind you to forgiveness.
They just are - nothing more.
Still, I can't imagine.
Again, good luck man.
I am no longer on speaking terms with either my brother or sister. Not sure what my brother was doing, other than I would get messages from both with the opening lines of: "I've been speaking to her on the phone," or "your brother tells me blah, blah, blah." I mean, had this happened to my brother, and she did to him what my wife did to me (cheated and left), I'd never speak to her again. About anything. Period. End of story. But that's the way I feel about it.
My sister, meanwhile, is Rush Limbaugh's poster child for the term of "Femi-Nazi." Yes -- they do exist. She wants me to start taking blame for the end of the marriage. That I somehow did something to convince my wife to start sleeping with another guy and then leave me. She simply will not accept the fact that when my wife's younger brother died last year (drank himself into the grave at age 43), she went off an emotional cliff and the woman to climbed back up simply was not the woman I married. Somehow, I am to blame or need to accept blame for what happened.
So, yeah, I won't be spending Christmas with either of them this year. Email communication is out as are phone calls. They can't even contact me on Facebook.
Now, add this to the mix. Not only did I lose my wife, my family, my homes (we had four), I also lost my job. All of this crammed into a six month period. I wasn't fired or let go. I work as personal staff for a politician. Politicians have term limits. When the term ends, not only is the politician out of a job, so is the staff. This is not the first time I've been through this. This is the fourth time. But it's the first time without the support of my wife. Sometimes these layoffs can last for weeks to months. Sometimes, people don't get another job. There is no guarantee.
I am depressed. Of that there is no doubt. I'm just wondering how some of you got through your first holiday season without your significant others. Because I could really use some tips right about now...