Married for nearly 14 years. The last year has been absolute Hell. When my wife's brother died unexpectedly she changed a great deal. She pulled away from me. She detached. She routinely lies now about where she's been, who she's been with, what she's been doing. I know this because I've caught her in some real whoppers.
She never acted like this before. I truly believed we were happy as a couple. I know I was. Key word: was. The past year has been horrific. When I joined this forum last night, I read a few posts from people who did some checking on their wives (I guess you could call it snooping). In some cases they found the "smoking gun." In other cases, they weren't sure. I'm in the second category. I'm not sure.
My wife was once my very best friend. We confided in each other about everything. We traded notes 20 or 30 times a day. Now? I don't hear from her at all. She's just stopped all communication with me.
I found this email thread between her and a gentleman I know. There were several of them to be honest. They were not in her email inbox. They were not in the trash section, which she routinely cleans (deletes). Nope. She forgot to clean out one other section of her email: the "sent" file. This is where I found them -- the exchanges. They will email each other 10-12 times in the space of four hours.
Now -- what you're about to see is just one of these exchanges. The names and places have been covered up to protect the innocent. TAM moderators? I need your help. I've never been through anything like this before. You, on the other hand, have seen a lot of this. What's the deal?
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The Male
To
My Wife
Feb 9 at 7:14 AM
Think this is a job I could stomach?
https://www.employment.ucdavis.edu/applicants/jsp/shared/position/PrinterFriendlyJobDetails_css.jsp
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My Wife
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The Male
Feb 9 at 9:08 AM
The link won't open. In (a city) today. You aren't serious about leaving (your place of employment) though unless they invite you to leave, right?
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The Male
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My Wife
Feb 9 at 11:02 AM
Seriously looking, yes. I need an intermediate step out of state worker coverage so that my options are more open. Ina position where I need more than a hobby job (I.e. Pension, even if measely)
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My Wife
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The Male
Feb 9 at 11:58 AM
This seems really rash, but I'm a little in the dark and don't want to be unsupportive. still can't open the damn link. Take a few breaths though.
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The Male
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My Wife
You are right. I need to calm down. Good advice. Thanks. Sent from my iPhone > On Feb 9, 2016, at 11:58 AM,
Feb 9 at 12:07 PM
My Wife
To
The Male
Feb 9 at 12:23 PM
Don't give into the Latin drama queen, she said from the Cuban restaurant
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The Male
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My Wife
Feb 9 at 1:05 PM
No. Sound advice. I will disclose more later, but as you prolly realize, personal life is turned inside out. Has me reevaluating a lot of things, including my job and how it feeds my insatiable ego. Plus, I have zero security if I wind up going forward alone. I like what I do, but it may be a job I can no longer afford.
Having said that, I'm not in a good place to decide **** right now. So I need to sit tight, calm down and wait.
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My Wife
To
The Male
Feb 9 at 1:54 PM
Don't be so hard on yourself. Whatever; whenever, I'm here.
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The Male
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My Wife
Feb 9 at 1:59 PM
I know. Thanks
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She never acted like this before. I truly believed we were happy as a couple. I know I was. Key word: was. The past year has been horrific. When I joined this forum last night, I read a few posts from people who did some checking on their wives (I guess you could call it snooping). In some cases they found the "smoking gun." In other cases, they weren't sure. I'm in the second category. I'm not sure.
My wife was once my very best friend. We confided in each other about everything. We traded notes 20 or 30 times a day. Now? I don't hear from her at all. She's just stopped all communication with me.
I found this email thread between her and a gentleman I know. There were several of them to be honest. They were not in her email inbox. They were not in the trash section, which she routinely cleans (deletes). Nope. She forgot to clean out one other section of her email: the "sent" file. This is where I found them -- the exchanges. They will email each other 10-12 times in the space of four hours.
Now -- what you're about to see is just one of these exchanges. The names and places have been covered up to protect the innocent. TAM moderators? I need your help. I've never been through anything like this before. You, on the other hand, have seen a lot of this. What's the deal?
(9)
People
The Male
To
My Wife
Feb 9 at 7:14 AM
Think this is a job I could stomach?
https://www.employment.ucdavis.edu/applicants/jsp/shared/position/PrinterFriendlyJobDetails_css.jsp
Sent from my iPad
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My Wife
To
The Male
Feb 9 at 9:08 AM
The link won't open. In (a city) today. You aren't serious about leaving (your place of employment) though unless they invite you to leave, right?
Sent from my iPhone
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The Male
To
My Wife
Feb 9 at 11:02 AM
Seriously looking, yes. I need an intermediate step out of state worker coverage so that my options are more open. Ina position where I need more than a hobby job (I.e. Pension, even if measely)
Sent from my iPhone
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My Wife
To
The Male
Feb 9 at 11:58 AM
This seems really rash, but I'm a little in the dark and don't want to be unsupportive. still can't open the damn link. Take a few breaths though.
Sent from my iPhone
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The Male
To:
My Wife
You are right. I need to calm down. Good advice. Thanks. Sent from my iPhone > On Feb 9, 2016, at 11:58 AM,
Feb 9 at 12:07 PM
My Wife
To
The Male
Feb 9 at 12:23 PM
Don't give into the Latin drama queen, she said from the Cuban restaurant
Sent from my iPhone
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The Male
To
My Wife
Feb 9 at 1:05 PM
No. Sound advice. I will disclose more later, but as you prolly realize, personal life is turned inside out. Has me reevaluating a lot of things, including my job and how it feeds my insatiable ego. Plus, I have zero security if I wind up going forward alone. I like what I do, but it may be a job I can no longer afford.
Having said that, I'm not in a good place to decide **** right now. So I need to sit tight, calm down and wait.
Sent from my iPhone
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My Wife
To
The Male
Feb 9 at 1:54 PM
Don't be so hard on yourself. Whatever; whenever, I'm here.
Sent from my iPhone
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The Male
To
My Wife
Feb 9 at 1:59 PM
I know. Thanks
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