I love my wife, but she is very closed off to new ideas in the bed room. basically sex has become boring. I've met a new girl on a fluke. and she wants me bad. I've always wanted to be desired. this new girl wants me bad and my wife doesn't. i don't know what to do. I would love for my wife to be more adventurous but she is a cold fish. I've tried talking to her,but to no avail. i really desire this new girl, but i would hate to leave my wife.
You cannot have both. I would suggest that you talk to your wife and telling her that you do not wish to spend the rest of your life like this and see how she responds.
I love my wife, but she is very closed off to new ideas in the bed room. basically sex has become boring. I've met a new girl on a fluke. and she wants me bad. I've always wanted to be desired. this new girl wants me bad and my wife doesn't. i don't know what to do. I would love for my wife to be more adventurous but she is a cold fish. I've tried talking to her,but to no avail. i really desire this new girl, but i would hate to leave my wife.
Tell her exactly what you have here. Don't leave anything out. The blunt truth, may be what you both need to avoid an affair.
Tell her exactly what you have here. Don't leave anything out. The blunt truth, may be what you both need to avoid an affair.
Yes i think that may be best, i really only want to be desired by my wife. i'm a pretty good looking guy and i find that a lot of women are attracted to me. It is very hard not to take advantage of the opportunities.
DO NOT betray your wife. You cannot imagine the gut wrenching devastation of heartache and misery that you will unleash upon her if you choose to have a PA (physical affair), and upon yourself as well.
Think how you would feel if the roles were reversed and it was she who wanted to have sex with a man she knew who wanted her just as much as she wanted him, and all because you were a boring sex partner? You would be devastated, wouldn't you? So end all contact with the OW (other woman) once and for all and start talking with your wife so the two of you can go to couples therapy to improve your romantic and sex lives.
I love my wife, but she is very closed off to new ideas in the bed room. basically sex has become boring. I've met a new girl on a fluke. and she wants me bad. I've always wanted to be desired. this new girl wants me bad and my wife doesn't. i don't know what to do. I would love for my wife to be more adventurous but she is a cold fish. I've tried talking to her,but to no avail. i really desire this new girl, but i would hate to leave my wife.
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Originally Posted by morituri
DO NOT betray your wife. You cannot imagine the gut wrenching devastation of heartache and misery that you will unleash upon her if you choose to have a PA (physical affair), and upon yourself as well.
Think how you would feel if the roles were reversed and it was she who wanted to have sex with a man she knew who wanted her just as much as she wanted him, and all because you were a boring sex partner? You would be devastated, wouldn't you? So end all contact with the OW (other woman) once and for all and start talking with your wife so the two of you can go to couples therapy to improve your romantic and sex lives.
Do not do this to your wife, she doesn't deserve it. Nobody does. I am currently going through it with my WW, I can't begin to tell you the heartache and pain out is causing me knowing what she did. Talk to her. Posted via Mobile Device
Don't do it! You need to communicate with her. If you love her, and it sounds like you do, you must me honest about the bedroom. Having an EA or PA is extremely devastating. My husband has had 2 EA's that I know of and I am sure it's more then that now because we are now getting separated. If you have an A you will destroy her emotionally. Do you really want that on your conscience?
I love my wife..i don't know what to do...i really desire this new girl, but i would hate to leave my wife.
So you'd put your desire for some tramp/homewrecker who is chasing a married man ahead of the woman you have committed to and spent years building a life together with.
Nice, you know exactly what you should do, but you are considering giving your W the ultimate betrayal and devastating her world for some cheap thrill. Sounds pretty superficial to me, I know which one I would pick if I could have my choice.
So you'd put your desire for some tramp/homewrecker who is chasing a married man ahead of the woman you have committed to and spent years building a life together with.
Nice, you know exactly what you should do, but you are considering giving your W the ultimate betrayal and devastating her world for some cheap thrill. Sounds pretty superficial to me, I know which one I would pick if I could have my choice.
I love my wife, but she is very closed off to new ideas in the bed room. basically sex has become boring. I've met a new girl on a fluke. and she wants me bad. I've always wanted to be desired. this new girl wants me bad and my wife doesn't. i don't know what to do. I would love for my wife to be more adventurous but she is a cold fish. I've tried talking to her,but to no avail. i really desire this new girl, but i would hate to leave my wife.
Then you should choose. Not both. You either try and work things out with your wife, letting her know that your needs are not being met and that you see this as a deal breaker or divorce her.
So you'd put your desire for some tramp/homewrecker who is chasing a married man ahead of the woman you have committed to and spent years building a life together with.
Nice, you know exactly what you should do, but you are considering giving your W the ultimate betrayal and devastating her world for some cheap thrill. Sounds pretty superficial to me, I know which one I would pick if I could have my choice.
It's been two years since d-day for me. My H's married wh*** wanted him "bad" too. What a piece of S*** this woman is, and if your potential piece of a** knows that you are married and is coming on to you she is too. She want's to compete with your wife and humiliate her as much as she wants to rut with you, maybe more, that is exactly why they call it betrayal. Right now you are thinking with your private parts. My feelings for my H will never be the same. Nearly every time I look at him I feel disgust for what he has done to our marriage ( D is not an option for us), and all because he put his lust ahead of my needs. If he had been honest with me our marriage would have become everything that he wanted it to be, now it never will. I was as "bored" with our sex life as he was, he just wasn't a very good lover. I could have helped him in that respect, but I wasn't comfortable with talking to him about it because I didn't want hurt his ego, and I loved him too much to risk hurting him. He didn't really care about hurting me though. If he had told me about her before it was too late we could have worked it out. Both of us would have benefited from his honesty. I could have continued to respect him. Your wife deserves better. I have never had anything hurt me as this has. I lost a child to cancer, and that nearly killed me. I thought that nothing worse could ever happen to me. I was wrong. My child could not help dying, it was not a deliberate choice, betrayal is.
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