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Old 03-15-2012, 07:03 PM   #61 (permalink)
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Keeping exposure a secret. Yes, you read right. But we have had exposure targets say “ok, I will keep this a secret!!” And they never tell the WS they know. That defeats the entire purpose. If that person won’t help you by speaking to your WS, at least TELL the WS that person knows.


This part lost me, not sure what is meant by this.. and is there any examples of how to word messagess if sent by FB.....
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Old 03-19-2012, 12:14 PM   #62 (permalink)
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Bump, and request. I've seen a list of the progression from
just friends, confiding, hiding, bad-mouthing spouse, etc until
a full-on EA/PA occurs. I just can't find it now. So, could
the author please post it here?
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Old 03-19-2012, 12:18 PM   #63 (permalink)
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believe it was f-102, I'll look for it
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Old 03-19-2012, 12:41 PM   #64 (permalink)
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having a dilly of a time finding it, sent a PM to f-102
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Old 03-19-2012, 03:55 PM   #65 (permalink)
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Bump, and request. I've seen a list of the progression from
just friends, confiding, hiding, bad-mouthing spouse, etc until
a full-on EA/PA occurs. I just can't find it now. So, could
the author please post it here?
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believe it was f-102, I'll look for it
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having a dilly of a time finding it, sent a PM to f-102
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Old 03-19-2012, 04:03 PM   #66 (permalink)
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thanks GF, will add it to post 3
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Old 03-19-2012, 06:09 PM   #67 (permalink)
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Yep, that's it. Thanks GF and Almost. I also tried searching the fora, but didn't get a hit.
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Old 03-27-2012, 02:58 AM   #68 (permalink)
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Guys, I am new to this, how do I mark this thread in a way that I can easily and frequently return to it?
I will need the lingo and abbreviations list, but I loved the whole original post in general.
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Old 03-27-2012, 07:57 PM   #69 (permalink)
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Based on my experience with Exposure emails and an email intercept

There is a good chance that if the AP is married they will have access to the email of the BS because they are trusted. Bad.

They will also know of your existence, and probably your email address so i would suggest you limit the chance that a email is intercepted by:

Create a new gmail account with a sensible name but in no way related to your name.

Gmail rarely gets sent to spam so it will hit the inbox.

Use a matter of fact and non revealing subject line, avoid using your name or their name in the subject. Keep it simple and to the point.

Example:

1. Create a gmail account here

You are required to give a second email account to recover your gmail password do not make this an account that your DS has access to or they will be able to get into your account.


Write your email.
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Subject Line: Your life in Pictures
Not..

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Subject Line: Your wife is a cheating fck

Then use the template. Don't include your phone number..

Do Not be emotive, just the facts. Keep it short

Send.

Start using this account for everything. DO NOT tell your DS about it!
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Old 03-30-2012, 09:25 AM   #70 (permalink)
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Guys, I am new to this, how do I mark this thread in a way that I can easily and frequently return to it?
I will need the lingo and abbreviations list, but I loved the whole original post in general.
bookmark it in your browser, if that's an issue for privacy you can copy the link into a PM sent to yourself
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Keeping exposure a secret. Yes, you read right. But we have had exposure targets say “ok, I will keep this a secret!!” And they never tell the WS they know. That defeats the entire purpose. If that person won’t help you by speaking to your WS, at least TELL the WS that person knows.


This part lost me, not sure what is meant by this.. and is there any examples of how to word messagess if sent by FB.....
UM.. did I miss the answer to this??

"Keeping exposure a secret" I thout we are suppose to expose the heck out it??????/
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Old 04-03-2012, 02:25 PM   #72 (permalink)
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bump for the newbies.

I'm gonna take a break from the forum myself for a while for physical reasons. I hurt my elbow doing curls, even though I went lighter on the weights. Normally it heals up in a few days, but it just got worse over the past few weeks. The doctor said I was aggravating this injury by typing on the computer, and yes, it hurts while typing this. So I'm going to have to go light on typing till its healed.
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Take care of yourself LM!
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