Below are posts between waywards on a pro affair site. These waywards are actively involved in affairs , one had a D day and simply took it underground before her husband caught her again:
I have taken select extracts to highlight to you the BS
spouses why you should pay close attention to, LISTEN to our advice and take harsh tough steps to protect you, your marriage and your family.
Those in affairs have little to no concern for the damage and hurt they are doing to their spouse and family.
They lie, deny, gaslight, cheat and practice every act of deception they can to protect their affair and to undermine their spouses.
Almost a year after my first Dday my H caught me again. Apparently he's been recording me at home and who knows where else and got a conversation between me and MM. I had no idea he has been suspicious and obviously wasn't being careful enough but WTF!!! I told my H that it isn't physical but that we have been talking lately. I am going to DENY DENY DENY any sort of physical relationship. No matter what. My H is livid right now but because we are very busy and consumed with work we've decided to put this discussion on hold for a week or two. He has actually physically threatened my MM but I think he is just mad and I don't think there's any real truth in them. At this point out marriage is completely up in the air and I don't know where we will go from here.
My first dday was my fault. One of our meetings at a hotel room my MM was running late so I paid. On my credit card. STUPID. well long story short.. my H saw it on my bank statement. All hell broke loose of course. I have been sooooooo careful since. But never woulda thought he would record me. Still in shock
My BF is technologically savvy and clearly could set up any and all of these devices.
But you know what? If he did, I'd leave him in a second. I know that sounds crazy, but that is such an invasion of my privacy. It's one thing to read my emails or text that is sitting right there, but voice and video recording? That's so crazy and gross, I'd be gone.
If you are that f*****g suspicious, how about talking to your partner first. If communication is that crappy, that's probably why your partner is stepping out in the first place.
I totally agree with you XXXX.... I was horrified when my H told me he recorded me. I told him he absolutely invaded my privacy..IN MY OWN HOME. I feel completely uncomfortable now at home. It makes me so mad. Sometimes I even think about leaving him just because of it. But again.. my daughter
If you are that f****g suspicious, how about talking to your partner first.
As if the cheating partner would tell the truth .
They are shocked that they can be spied on , seem to think that their right to privacy to continue the affair outweighs their abuse of the love and trust of their spouses and the love of their family. To top it all its all their BS fault.
They conveniently forget 50% of the marriage problems are theirs
100% of the affair and the degradation of the marriage relationship due to the affair is theirs.
Important Tools for BS:
VARs, keyloggers , apps to monitor smart phones , a clear head and your fear of losing your marriage , use this fear to take the steps to shine a spot light on the affair