For the newly betrayed coming to the forum. Contains the common acronyms used, terms, definitions, what to do, etc.
you seem to be the keeper of acronyms... would like to add one with definition
HF - Honest Friends/Family members: these are ones that will tell you what you need to know not what you want to hear.
Years back... I was a WS, no excuses and now I realize how vigilant I need to be about my own feelings. It was HF (married couple themselves) who got a hold of my very quickly and even before the TAM posted NC letter they had me do that very thing. To this day they contact me once a week to lovingly hold me accountable. Now I don't have any psychological issues but needless to say I appreciate their concern and so does my wife. Married - will be 18 years this coming Christmas Eve, yes we (my wife and I) are Mr. and Mrs Clause
BTW, I this is not denial: there was no actual EA or PA, it was near disaster and my wife (the most wonderful woman in the world) and we (including myself think of it as it is - infidelity). I could have used all kinds of excuses for my actions, my friends would have nothing to do with it... bravo for Honest Friends (HF). She had turned cold toward me... long story short, it turned out she actually had a treatable medical condition. She was hurt by unfaithful actions (rightfully so), and to this day I make her the queen of our household. She, my wife, is a gem that I was fortunate to have among all the lousy hay out there.
HF do exist... I am a living testament to it.