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Thank you guys. I don't know for sure if she is really posting and not going to ask her. This is awkward. Considering my next steps ATM.
But I couldn't stop myself from reading your posts. Please note as I mentioned a while ago that sort of therapy or counseling is not a mainstream here.

On a positive note 2 out of 3 pipeline deals I mentioned before did come through so in 6-12 months I can retire. Feel somehow sad as we used to have so many plans for this.
It is normal to feel sad as an event that was planned and anticipated by you both approaches. It is normal to grieve the loss of the marriage and the person you thought was your faithful wife.

I think you understand that what she has done is all on her. Maybe there were problems in the marriage that were not dealt with, but her decision to bring another person into your life and cheat is her responsibility 100%. Unfortunately you and your son also have to deal with the consequences of her actions.

How is your son doing? I know you said he was a teenager, but counseling might help him deal. For you also.

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Thank you guys. I don't know for sure if she is really posting and not going to ask her. This is awkward. Considering my next steps ATM.
But I couldn't stop myself from reading your posts. Please note as I mentioned a while ago that sort of therapy or counseling is not a mainstream here.

On a positive note 2 out of 3 pipeline deals I mentioned before did come through so in 6-12 months I can retire. Feel somehow sad as we used to have so many plans for this.
How's that boat?

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How is your son doing? I know you said he was a teenager, but counseling might help him deal. For you also.
Thanks for asking. He is doing ok. Affected but ok. Keeping him busy (see below) and slightly spoiled

Have a hope therapy is not required for him. For me - I know it's irrational - its akin of giving up. So thanks but no thanks for now.

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How's that boat?
Now to the important matter its arrived and after a lot of customs issues it's finally with an outfitter. Sold my old one. Sad but symbolic.

Getting my son to do a handiwork on it with me. He sucks at trades but loves it. Managed to place, mark and pilot drill all rod holders on his own (which is not too easy) with no issues. Posting selfies of himself with tools, knee pads and goggles.
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Thanks for asking. He is doing ok. Affected but ok. Keeping him busy (see below) and slightly spoiled

Have a hope therapy is not required for him. For me - I know it's irrational - its akin of giving up. So thanks but no thanks for now.



Now to the important matter its arrived and after a lot of customs issues it's finally with an outfitter. Sold my old one. Sad but symbolic.

Getting my son to do a handiwork on it with me. He sucks at trades but loves it. Managed to place, mark and pilot drill all rod holders on his own (which is not too easy) with no issues. Posting selfies of himself with tools, knee pads and goggles.
Awesome! Great way to spend time with the son. I bet it's a sweet boat. What make/model did you get?

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Awesome! Great way to spend time with the son. I bet it's a sweet boat. What make/model did you get?
Ended up with Edgewater CC 24 footer. Wanted different brand initially but they had issues with local warranty on the hull.
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Ended up with Edgewater CC 24 footer. Wanted different brand initially but they had issues with local warranty on the hull.


Something like this?

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Talking about therapy...
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... For me - I know it's irrational - its akin of giving up. So thanks but no thanks for now.
That is such an Aussie male answer. I would probably say the same. The answer or change is already inside me and if I haven't got the balls to get it then therapy is giving up. Not rational, but Aussie.

It is so interesting to read different posts about what others learnt in therapy and the effort spent at it. After all this time not understanding it from US TV shows, I think I begin to understand a little, but still not for me.

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Something like this?
Yep only in Stars and Stripes Blue . Inspired by my US friends including TAM
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So, I realize we are getting off topic here, but being a fisherman myself,, I have to ask... What do you fish for and how? Do you troll, drop line, or cast? What kind of electronics did you outfit it with?

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So, I realize we are getting off topic here, but being a fisherman myself,, I have to ask... What do you fish for and how? Do you troll, drop line, or cast? What kind of electronics did you outfit it with?
Don't think it's a problem, this is my thread. Let's pretend it's a therapy.

Mainly fish (form my old boat I mean) for ppelagic (kingfish, salmon, bonito, mahi ) and and snapper. With the bigger boat going to add tuna and marlin.
Lures, jigging, trolling and bait.

Haven't made my mind on electronics. Used to have Lowrance but considering Simrad now.

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Don't think it's a problem, this is my thread. Let's pretend it's a therapy.

Mainly fish (form my old boat I mean) for ppelagic (kingfish, salmon, bonito, mahi ) and and snapper. With the bigger boat going to add tuna and marlin.
Lures, jigging, trolling and bait.

Haven't made my mind on electronics. Used to have Lowrance but considering Simrad now.
That sounds like a load of fun! I live nearly 5 hours from the nearest salt water, so I mostly fish for bass, catfish, and panfish from my kayak. I had a 22ft bass boat but it sat up more than it got used so I was constantly pulling the carbs on it. My kayaks can sit in the shed for as long as I need.

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That sounds like a load of fun! I live nearly 5 hours from the nearest salt water, so I mostly fish for bass, catfish, and panfish from my kayak. I had a 22ft bass boat but it sat up more than it got used so I was constantly pulling the carbs on it. My kayaks can sit in the shed for as long as I need.
I leave at the ocean front Love bass fishing and tried to do that when visiting US.
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Actually this board is therapy lite. Therapist have a bad rep because a lot deserve it. To many are touchy feelly let's all get along. I say bull let's fix the issues.

I think the biggest mistake is that MC think fix the issues in the marriage the adultety issues go away. Wrong the only way to address the marriage issues is first to address the pile of crap the WS piled onto the marriage issues.

Have you started to date yet? If not you might want to consider holding off to let things settle more for your son. He needs dad time big time as it has hit him hard. Lonely Husband son is thinking about breaking his engagement due to his mom's adultery. He thought the world of his mom, I get the sense she was a rock to him. He now she her as a piece of clay.

Finally Hantie you come across as the Steve McQueen of Australia.
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Don't think it's a problem, this is my thread. Let's pretend it's a therapy.

Mainly fish (form my old boat I mean) for ppelagic (kingfish, salmon, bonito, mahi ) and and snapper. With the bigger boat going to add tuna and marlin.
Lures, jigging, trolling and bait.

Haven't made my mind on electronics. Used to have Lowrance but considering Simrad now.
Hantei, You will most likely get a good laugh from me. I am from the coal mines of West Virginia, USA. Fishing for the fish you mentioned are scary as hell for us. LOL We are happy if we catch a catfish in the Kanawha River. Continue to teach your boy, as I will mine, maybe someday they will teach others what we have learned. And expand knowledge to everyone after we are gone. Wouldn't that be the greatest honor to us?
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Hantei, You will most likely get a good laugh from me. I am from the coal mines of West Virginia, USA. Fishing for the fish you mentioned are scary as hell for us. LOL We are happy if we catch a catfish in the Kanawha River. Continue to teach your boy, as I will mine, maybe someday they will teach others what we have learned. And expand knowledge to everyone after we are gone. Wouldn't that be the greatest honor to us?
I'd only say - should be hoping to pass more then just fishing skills. But your are spot on in general my friend.
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