Hantei, you are doing a perfect 180. . . by the book, not many can or do cos it's damn hard. I have said that to you before.
You are right that is hard. I'm just not posting much about it. Did it once when I was 5 minutes away from breaking it - and it (posting) did help.
I, for one have seen your anger, from the beginning. But you have put your nose to the grindstone, held it all in for your son and the 180 for STBXW which is advocated over and over again on TAM and dealt with everything that needs to be dealt with in this situation. And I bet you find yourself when driving or walking down the street swearing under your breath. I did & still do while smiling at the world at large.
So yes, I know how angry you feel and it jumps off these pages to me. And I know only too well what it feels like.
Correct, a lot of people here seems to read me like an open book. Saves me from typing
I am sorry you have been through these issues yourself, no one deserves that. Applies to pretty much any poster to my thread as well.
I can't recall reading about any BS on here who got the financials & legals sorted, in a matter of weeks after D-day. It's really important no matter whether there's R or not, to show WS you are not a walkover. And that shows her loud & clear. And yet, you managed that too in the face of your anger.
Appreciate the positive reinforcement however for the sake of clarity: In Australia we can apply for divorce under one year of separation, so whatever I have done in that legal $ financial department is just enough for the separation countdown to start, it's far from over but I have the time now. The fact that my STBXW suddenly discovered she can't afford the $600+ AUD bill for my son's clothing is a perfect illusrtation of the mess we're in.
I bet you'd like a few hairy, tattooed blokes to pay SOB a visit. All they'd have to do is stand there & ask him politely when he was leaving town. Would be fun to watch heh heh! I'll leave you with that pleasant thought.
Now this is one of my few genuine laughs for the last couple of weeks. How should I say that... I'm not hairy and have only one tatoo (on my shoulder) but those who know me personally know I can do physical (my nickname is a hint). So I don't need a 3rd party to pay him a visit. And - as I mentioned before - I'm beginning to entertain an idea of very pilit and legal face to face discussion with him.