Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Somewhere out there...
Re: I don't know what would be the right title
Hantei, who have you told about the affair? Your wife has invented justifications to allow herself to cheat on you. She sees herself as a good woman and since good women don't cheat she's had to completely make up reasons for her actions. Don't buy it for a second. If you want to try to break her out of her fog then expose her affair far and wide. Tell family, tell friends, tell anyone who would see her actions as destructive to your marriage and to herself. At the same time you must show her that you are going to move on with your life, without her if necessary. Start separating finances, print out divorce paraphernalia (anything that shows you are moving toward divorce.) Let her see you actively looking to move on. When the discussion comes up (let her approach you) tell her divorce is not what you want but in the absence of a commitment from her to work on the marriage you have no alternative. Disengage from her as much as you can. Do not give her any attention (positive or negative.) Generally women tend to hate being ignored and left out of the loop. She needs to see you as something she not only doesn't want to lose but as something she WILL lose if she doesn't get her head out of her azz. Most of all understand that she is just a woman, she's not your soulmate, she's not the only woman in the world for you. If she doesn't value you there are literally thousands of others that are just begging for the chance to show you how much they do.
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