12-10-2008, 02:24 PM
Join Date: Feb 2008
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| | Re: was blindsided
Originally Posted by swedish
I have been in your shoes so I understand how you must be feeling. Keep in mind, an emotional affair usually starts because a spouse is not getting their emotional needs met within the marriage. You probably know better than anyone that this was probably the case when you were drinking. She had a need to feel loved and appreciated for who she is and she found a listening ear which probably made her feel special.
Iíve been here too. That she has admitted what this is is a great step forward. She had recognized what the relationship was and hopefully how damaging it was to her relationship with you. You are just at the beginning of the journey and there will be emotional upheaval ahead for you both. Stay steady in your changes and help her with hers. Mutual support is what is needed now. With time forgiveness will come but donít expect it to come in a flash. As Iíve said many times on the forum, marriages donít get into this kind of condition overnight. They wonít recover that quickly either. Hang tough, it does get better it just takes effort, time and faith. Good luck.
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