I'm pretty jaded about it too.
I took the original post by bandit to be more along the lines af the WS coming back to the BS with something along the lines of...queue the soft, slow, yet dramatic music...I'm so sorry. I never really realized what I had until I thought it was gone forever but now I do, and all the blah blah crap that follows.
My favorite was with one of my buddies... Found out his wife was sleeping with one of his best friends.
She was out of the house right away (into a condo nearby that he found for her), realtors were looking at the house, and she had signed a separation agreement with fair terms regarding custody of the kids, etc. She all signed it happily because she thought her affair partner was going to leave his wife and she had a new shag pad to **** him in without interference.
And then, he left for Hawaii for a week. With a random girl he picked up at the bar. He told me it went something like "listen, I'm going through a divorce, want a free trip to Hawaii for a week?"
I don't even know that he touched her -- for all I know, he got her a separate room. Or screwed her brains out, I don't know.
But what I do know is that the week he was gone, her affair partner decided that leaving his wife wasn't such a good idea after all (after my buddy called up his wife). Suddenly, my buddies wife was alone, her husband was in Hawaii with some PYT, and she was being summarily dumped by two guys.
And then she came over to our house sobbing to my wife about "why won't he even try to save our marriage! I want him back so bad!"
And my wife laughed at her and said "I guess you shouldn't have ****ed his best friend then." Or some such thing. She tried to make it more compassionate than it sounds but that was the message. His wife tried to make it out like she had been confused the whole time, and it was the other guy that convinced her to have the affair... But I finally had enough and just said that she made her bed and she's going to have to lie in it. And that was that.
About a year later we ran into her, and she looked like she had aged 10 years. Living in her small condo, part time custody of her kids, very lonely. It was sad.
Her husband started his own business that took off, got a new girlfriend who adores him, and has a big ranch outside of town for his kids to come to and ride horses when he has them.
She still talks about wanting him back, but that isn't going to ever happen.