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post #586 of 594 (permalink) Old 03-23-2017, 04:18 PM Thread Starter
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See the attached link. This is a perfect example of the way most wayward spouses view the destruction of their marriage. Check out this so called "apology letter" from a WS to her husband.

http://lettertomyex.com/2015/10/12/t...to-love-again/

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See the attached link. This is a perfect example of the way most wayward spouses view the destruction of their marriage. Check out this so called "apology letter" from a WS to her husband.

To my ex husband, I want you to love again | Letter To My Ex
What a bunch of sanctimonious, self indulgent bull****!

The entitlement dripping from that letter makes me nauseous.
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My stbex wife certainly didn't come crawling back and showed no remorse that I could see. The only thing I managed to get out of her was "I made a mistake." She didn't want to divorce so she did do things like turn over passwords and update on where she was whenever I wanted but definitely no crawling back. If anything, I did the crawling back; 2 months after I left I returned and with a day she threw that in my face and let me know I had come crawling back - in fact she used those very words.

I'm glad I read this post. I don't know what I'm second guessing. Leaving the POS has done wonders for my self-respect.
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Reestablishing self-respect should be the ultimate goal of every betrayed spouse, whether the marriage is saved or not.
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The way I feel is, each one of us comes into this world alone, and we leave this world alone.

I don't want to be on my death bed and look back and say to myself "you should have respected yourself more...." "....why did you allow that person to disrespect you and in turn cause you to give up your self-respect?" There comes a point in all our lives where it's too late to go back and reestablish our self worth.
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The way I feel is, each one of us comes into this world alone, and we leave this world alone.

I don't want to be on my death bed and look back and say to myself "you should have respected yourself more...." "....why did you allow that person to disrespect you and in turn cause you to give up your self-respect?"
And then you look over and that person who disrespected you is still there, texting away on her phone why you are dying as WS do.

Sorry I couldn't resist. They make such good marriage partners.
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See the attached link. This is a perfect example of the way most wayward spouses view the destruction of their marriage. Check out this so called "apology letter" from a WS to her husband.

To my ex husband, I want you to love again | Letter To My Ex
She should have just wrote "me me me me me me me me me and me" down the entire page because that is what her letter sounds like.

"All in all, just know.
I’m ok."

Buahahahahahahahahahahaha - two words for her - who cares

Some waywards really have a flair for the dramatic - dont they? They thrive on it which lead to cheating in the first place - "my inner child was in pain so I fell into my lovers arms" lol

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Re: Myth: "They Come Crawling Back"

That was a tough letter to read. I tried to give the benefit of the doubt - maybe the H was a complete loser and abused her. I don't know - no background was given.

After I finished reading it, I was filled with anger towards her. I realize I'm projecting my own anger on her, but man. That sucked to read. It felt as though she was forgiving him for driving her to the affair, but yet still apologizing. Too confusing to make sense out of.

Probably shouldn't have read that.
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That was a tough letter to read. I tried to give the benefit of the doubt - maybe the H was a complete loser and abused her. I don't know - no background was given.

After I finished reading it, I was filled with anger towards her. I realize I'm projecting my own anger on her, but man. That sucked to read. It felt as though she was forgiving him for driving her to the affair, but yet still apologizing. Too confusing to make sense out of.

Probably shouldn't have read that.
That letter was a nicely worded blame shifting letter..that is all it was.

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