Maybe this will not fit into this thread so please forgive me.
This february was One Year "anniversary" of my break up with ex-fiance. Damn we even wanted to start with children right away.
I told her I would never forgive cheating no matter if we are 5 or 50 years together and she knew what I think about that but she do it anyways. She is still contacting me,sometimes even asking how do I feel but I let my new Lady to answer on those questions.
I am happy when I see other people working together after betrayel and I will support them but I really hate when a wrong husband or wife starts to blame others for their actions. What is even worse a damaged spouse will do anything to keep the cheating H/W. So at the end I really ask myself is it worth ?
Sometimes it is much easier to start all over again. You dont have to sleep with one open eye or ask yourself a questions where is she/he,what are they doing ...
Also people are using to much excuses for cheating like mid life crisis. My grandmother never knew about this stuff but she never cheated. People used to have respect and love for each other.
Now you can see in group of friends,wife making laugh at her husband and puting him down or husband doing the same. It is "normal" and they even laugh about it on facebook and other sites.
I wish you the best TAM members.