Re: Myth: "They Come Crawling Back"
Well, in all fairness, my serial cheating ex-husband did come "crawling" back asking for another chance. What he did not do, however, is beg for forgiveness. Because in his mind, he didn't really do anything wrong. He was basically waiting for me to get over being mad at him and come to my senses and take him back. I think he truly believed, even for months after our divorce was final, that I would get over it and come home so we could resume our marriage. When I didn't seem to be doing that on his schedule, he did make a stab at faking remorse and begging for another chance. If I had been weaker or less aware of the reality of him at that point, I might have mistaken it for the real thing.
The reality, though, was that actually being a single man wasn't nearly as great as having a wife and family at home while playing around like a single man. He needed both a wife and a string of affairs. The affairs alone weren't cooking his meals, doing his laundry, handling his family and social obligations, hosting his parties, keeping up with his appointments, and generally managing the realities of life. He needed a wife for that, so why not see if his ex-wife was still interested in the position. It would certainly have been more convenient that hiring and training a new candidate.
Profound narcissism is such an interesting trait.
Last edited by Rowan; 03-10-2016 at 08:22 AM.