Re: how do APs rationalise destroying a family?
I managed to meet my real father recently. I won't go into the details of it all, but I got to talk to him, and asked him similar questions.
He told me that he didn't feel responsible because he isn't married. The married person messing around is responsible.
When I pointed out he didn't have to have sex with married people, he said something along the lines of: if a married person wants to have an affair, they're going to have one. And if they're going to have sex, might as well be with him than with someone else.
Then when I brought up pregnancy and affairs, and myself, he just laughed and said he won the lottery.
He just had to squirt me out, and some other sucker had to pay and raise me.
And again, said it wasn't his fault. If a married person wants to cheat and be irresponsible, he can't stop them. Might as well be sure you're the one having sex.
I loathe having that man as my father.