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Who caught their WS in the act?

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#1 ·
Ok, so we hear all about the spouses that saw the flags, did the PI work and pieced together the puzzle until they finally had enough proof to confront.

Has anybody ever caught their spouse actually doing the deed? would be interested to hear how that went. Discovery is one thing but walking in on it is a hole no issue. Did it play a role in whether or not to reconcile?
 
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I once heard a guy say that he snuck in to his house while he was at work, opened the bedroom door and some guy was pounding his wife.

He pulled up a chair quietly and proceeded to watch until they noticed him taking pictures.

Which made it really hard for her to deny the affair or that "it wasn't what it looked like."
 
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That's exactly what I'm curious about. It changes so much of the discovery and confrontation part. It makes me wonder just how you proceed from there.

When you find out by seeing texts or reading emails it's left to the imagination what happened and you can Imagine some pretty bad things but when you walk in on it and see them in the act there is no undoing what you've seen.

At least with imagination you can eventually convince yourself it wasn't real, you can't do that when you had a front row seat.
 
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A good friend and I worked together. I was due to be in her wedding in 6 weeks.

She took a late lunch one day and noticed she forgot her salad dressing so she decided to run home to get it. They lived in a duplex house so a strange car outside didn’t throw up any red flags. She walked in the house and heard strange noises coming from the bedroom. Walked back to the bedroom, opened the door and caught her fiancé (and some chic he met at the grocery store) in full on horizontal mambo.

She ran out of the house and called me at work and told me. Waited til I got there and then we went in together and moved her stuff out. I kept him away from her, got the girl out of the house with no incident (other than my friend yelling obscenities at her). She had just dropped the invitations to the wedding at the post office that morning so she had to run down and stop them before the mail ran. She got all but about 20 back from the PO, the others I helped her call and tell them to ignore the invite, the wedding was off.

She was in a state of disbelief/shock for a couple of hours afterwards. She literally just kept saying she must have caught him masturbating and that’s why he was sweaty. She KNEW the girl was in the house, in the room and had to be escorted out of the bedroom by me, but somehow she had blocked the vision of seeing them in coitus.
 
#10 ·
Ugh is right. I get to wondering which one causes more trauma, your imagination running wild and thinking up the worst or seeing just plain old vanilla sex with your own eyes.

Seeing it right there in front of you takes away your ability to deny or minimize anything. If you're the kind of person that would want to try to reconcile I would think it would be more difficult to get over it when you see it with your own two eyes. There would be no way to convince yourself that your imagination is getting the better of you and your making it out to be worse than it is because you know exactly what "it" is.
 
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I was at a wedding many years ago where the groom busted the bride and best man having too much fun in the back of the limousine.

Most entertaining wedding I was ever at!
 
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I KNOW I could reconcile a PA. I just know how I’m built. It would hurt like hell, but I know me.

However, SEEING it may be a whole different story.

Knowing about a PA, you’re left to your imagination. Mind movies, what you think happened. Seeing it, I’d have to imagine that image is burned into your brain forever.
 
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I "heard" the act when she was screwing a co-worker in a parked car and she butt-dialed me getting undressed. I already knew things were off prior to the call which is why I listened all the way through instead of just hanging up and writing it off as a butt dial while she was at work.

Things seen cannot be unseen, and things heard cannot be unheard. I would have preferred learning the truth without that kind of evidence, but (and here is the big BUT), AT LEAST I KNEW THE TRUTH. I might never had got there without this catch.
 
#22 ·
oh, I forgot to add I heard it all too. I put a VAR in his car AND had him followed by a PI on the same day. Eureka!
They had made out earlier, after going out to lunch. The next day after I caught him I locked myself in the bathroom and listened to it - sickening.
He's never asked me to lunch, made out with me at the golf course and then asked to see me again because he HAD to see me and made out with me a couple hours later in the park.
Well, now this thread is getting me pissed.
I better go.
 
#26 ·
not a spouse but first LTR GF. Caught in the the "walk of shame" but not in the act. Long story short, she went to a wedding w/o me, was supposed to meet me after that night, never showed.

Next morning I go to where the reception was and see her car there. Wait a while and she comes up with a girl and 2 other guys. She sees me, get in my car, and I just ask her, which one were you with, and she says "the tall one".
 
#30 ·
I unfortunately belong to this club. The act was just finished we can say. Arrive with the music, candles, and cum rag beside the bed side table with the wedding photo. The OM literally did the "oh ****!!" . Then proceeded to tell me as he backed into the corner how it wasn't what it looked liked, and my wife love me. Ugh. My wife was literally in shock with that "stare" they all do. So brutal.

This was the end result of a month of gas lighting, lies, deception, the regular script. I had the phone records, the banking, all the regular ****, but as you all know cheaters lie. A lot. I approached her numerous times previous in a safe manner, asking her to come clean (I didn't have total proof of course) and if she was done with the marriage then let's stop the game and get divorced. Buy each time she "was confused" "loved me", "needed time", blah, blah.

So I got my proof as you can see. If it wasn't for TAM at the time I'm not sure how I would of made out.

The pain is still there of course but I am getting better with every passing day. NC had been a blessing. Can you believe she has been circling around me wanting to "be freinds!" . So devastating. She says "we shouldn't be like this". Or is this what you want? Not talk not be friends after 15 years?

Really?

I can say the whole mess had been the most difficult experience in my life. Certainly emotionally. But as many of you know, the emotion is so strong it causes physical pain. I lost 45 lbs. many people thought I was dieing of cancer! Ugh.

I can say this now that I have much more perspective that even walking in on it and the mind movies and sleepless nights (nightmares) are not as painful as the lies and decipt which preceded. That, and her watching the man she "loved" go down the toilet and not show a lick of empathy or a piss whilst this went down, all the while telling me she loved me.

What a mind ****!

Cheers TAM!
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The pain is still there of course but I am getting better with every passing day. NC had been a blessing. Can you believe she has been circling around me wanting to "be freinds!" . So devastating. She says "we shouldn't be like this". Or is this what you want? Not talk not be friends after 15 years?
"No, that's not what I want...

I want to have never laid eyes upon you."
 
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I don't know anyone personally who had this happen to them.

Morituri, one of our esteemed TAM veteranos, came across a video of his wife having sex with her OM on her computer.

I think there was another guy on here not to long ago who saw videos of his wife and her OM playing hide-the-sausage.

And then we had a couple on TAM where the wife, who was a marriage counselor, was having sex with her OM in her office. Her husband, who was an egghead, had rigged up her cell phone to turn on and go VOX when he called it, so when he called her that day he could hear her and her OM doing the nasty on her desk. Anyone remember their names? The husband later went on to become a pilot.
 
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And then we had a couple on TAM where the wife, who was a marriage counselor, was having sex with her OM in her office. Her husband, who was an egghead, had rigged up her cell phone to turn on and go VOX when he called it, so when he called her that day he could hear her and her OM doing the nasty on her desk. Anyone remember their names? The husband later went on to become a pilot.
I *think* this was @DevastatedDad.
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#43 ·
Saw a guy lay a trap for his wife while I was working once. He must have known that she was cheating and he left for work and he drove his truck down the street and hid it behind a UPS truck and about ten minuets later he saw his wife in some guys car coming down the street. He pulls his truck from behind the UPS truck and blocked the road, got out, grabbed the guy out of the car through the window and proceeded to give this guy a whole lot of "You ain't seen nothing yet" to the point that me and one of my employees had to go down and pull him off the guy because I though he was going to kill him. His wife got out of the car and she charges after her husband and put a hand full of scratches across his face and he hauled off and tagged her good across the jaw. Police shows up maybe five minuets later. They come looking for me and I told them what I saw, when they asked about the husband hitting his wife I said she charged him and the scratches are still on his face. It was a stupid thing to do on both parties. The guy and his wife were both put in police cars and taken away. The guy who got his ass kicked had to go in a ambulance. Bet he thinks twice about messing with another mans wife.
 
#47 ·
If you see your spouse doing the horizontal rumba with someone else it may give you solace to remember what skeptics say about folks seeing flying saucers, etc.... Studies of how our brains work show that humans make terrible eye witnesses because the brain often misinterprets what the eye really sees. :smile2:
 
#48 ·
My cousin caught her BF doing it with her best friend and she walked in on them. It's still hard for her to talk about it as they were together 10 years.

I know my instincts and it would be very hard not to pummel the guy in a case like that, even though it would be the women to blame. Getting the mental image out of my head I think would be impossible and any kind of reconciliation would be impossible.

For me, it would give me a lot of resolved to be spiteful and revengeful for sure.
 
#56 ·
Worst story I ever heard was from a young guy who called in to an L.A. radio talk show. He was having suspicions that his brand new wife was having an affair (she was ignoring him, coming home late, acting weird, etc.) So one afternoon she called him to tell him she would be home late for work. He borrowed a friend's car and drove to her workplace, waited for her to get off work, then followed her. He was surprised when she drove to his dad's house.

He had a sinking feeling. He knew his dad had been a philanderer, so expecting the worst, he parked down the street and crept down the alley to his dad's back yard. He hopped the fence and sneaked up to the patio doors at the back of the house. He could see inside to the living room and there he saw his wife, naked, straddling and riding his dad (also naked) on the living room couch. She looked up and saw him and screamed. At the same time he had come in through the patio door, and just as his wife jumped off his dad, he slammed his fist into the side of his dad's head and the fight was on. They bounced around the living room for a while and the wife called the cops. He got arrested and booked for breaking and entering and assault.

The charges were later dropped, but the family of course was torn apart. The guy divorced his wife, and the whole family ostracized the dad.

The poor guy was crying when he was telling this story. The radio host told him it wast he first time in his decades of radio work that he literally could not think of something to say.
 
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This story was in all local newspapers few month ago. Some insurance (or finances, don't remember) New Zealand married exec and his young subordinate enter the office room and starting to get busy. The street facing wall is a panoramic window, the room is lit, it's dark outside so they think they have privacy. Wrong, it's a see through the outside and people at the pub across the road have a perfect 1st row seat view of the whole romp. Some of them recorded the show and put it on Internet.

The girl is engaged and lives with her fiance who next morning is woken up by the story in the news and all his friends calling him and sending him YouTube links "hey your gf is live". In the radio interview after that he told that they were separated at the time (lied to save his face), that she's a good girl (sic!) and that he moved out next day.
 
#64 ·
1st is the logic. He claimed they separated yet they were living together and he moved out as soon as he learned. Doesn't sound to me like they have been separated already. Lied is probably a strong word, trying to save face is the right one.

2nd there was an interview with her (or her mum don't remember) - after she moved back to UK. Didn't sound like they've been separated.

3rd - grapevine. Know a person who knew their colleague. Been told the engagement/ marriage was called off.

So it's my interpretation FWIW if you like.
 
#66 ·
I'm in the same boat as YESWECAN. I unknowingly walked into a restaurant while my now ex fiancé was on a date with another man. I noticed them sitting at a table and saw them kiss. I approached the table and tried to hit him, overturned the table. It was a mess.

Apparently she must have been dating him behind my back for a while, because she left latter that night with him to Kentucky and married him. I had a friend tell me a few years latter that they divorced, but I have no clue why. I guess it was easier to hide things back then, we were an item from 1987-1990, there were no smart phones and tablets and laptops, plus we lived in neighboring towns 16 miles apart.
 
#67 ·
My buddy caught his GF cheating. It was an on again/off again kinda deal, high school sweetheart, you know the deal. But he loved her.

He was staying at a place he rented out with his buddies, walked into the bathroom during a party, and there was his GF bent over the sink with some dude pounding away. She just looked at him in shock, he flipped her the bird, and he walked out.

They came running out a few minutes later, we kept them apart, but he told the guy "you can have her, just get the hell out of my house!" And she ended up crying under the kitchen table and wouldn't leave.

Anyway. Call it 5 years later, we're both married and having our first kids. He comes over with his wife and kids like we always would do and he says "listen man, remember X? She's a stripper now and performing at [local sleazy peeler parlour]. My buddy told me."

And we all burst out laughing and our wives told us that we should go see her. So we did.

And we sat there in gyno row (the front seats) and laughed at her as she performed her act, and then ran off the stage. We finished our beer and left, going home to our wives and kids.

And that was that.
 
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