Re: Need some of that expert TAM wisdom
We have always used different cell phone carriers.
She is very tech savy. Me not so much.
I didn't plan on approaching her about anything until I have some time to monitor her.
Plan on getting her cell on my carrier.
She's had the passcode since the kids got a little older.
No idea if her iPhone is backed up on her computer. More then likely it is.
I've definitely had my hand off the "tiller".
I am in shape. Work out five times a week, and I eat good.
I try to romance her, however it's really been tough to do lately as my mother has cancer and I've been the one who's been taking her to countless Dr apps etc.
I feel like I'm a good kisser. Never had any complaints in the past. In fact any woman I've ever dated (including my wife) have told me I'm a great kisser.
Haven't asked her if she's bored, or why the pass codes on the devices.
As for fantasies, she doesn't like to talk about this stuff. Trust me I've tried numerous times over 17 yrs. She just doesn't want to talk about it.
As I mentioned we have sex two times a week. I'm not complaining about the quantity, however I'm not too thrilled that it's basically a chore now and she wants to do it as quickly as possible.
The pass codes could definitely be because of the kids. My youngest has from time to time liked to snoop.
She use to be up for anything sexual (for the most part). When I've brought this up to her she now says, "she's changed, and she's not into like she used to be". When I've brought up going to the Dr to see if there's anything possibly wrong with her she says she will however she never follows through.
If I asked her for her cell phone she would definitely hand it over to me without hesitation. She'd ask why I would want it, but she'd give it to me. If there was anything going on my wife would definitely be deleting any evidence even though she had a pass code on it.
I think the grind of raising two kids is wearing on her. The kids have a few activities they're involved in, but she was an only child and she never got to do anything growing up. So she likes to take the kids to all different places. They're always going. There's a group of kids they play with, and she's friends with the other mom's. So they quite a bit together. Even if it's just playing at the park.
MC hasn't been brought up.
She just gave my son her old iPhone. He doesn't have iTunes nor is it used to make calls on. Just uses it to make notes, look at pics, etc. All her contacts are still on the phone, and you can still see the call history. She upgraded a couple of weeks ago it looks like as there's calls up to about two weeks ago.
I have a Samsung S6.
I am a recruiter, and I own another business (food retail product).
Tech savy? Me...probably about a 3.
Her about a 8-9.
She has an HP laptop.
She's actually put on a few #s over the past few yrs, however she still looks amazing.
Plan on buying two VAR, and will put one by her desk as well.
No changes in her appearance.
My gut tells me there isn't anything going on right now, however as for in the past? Not so sure. Not that there was anything that happened that makes me feel this way. No idea how I would be able to prove anything went down in the past, however I will definitely monitor her, and if anything comes up at all that's a red flag then I will have NO hesitation making her take a polygraph. If she resisted then that would be all the evidence I would need, and I would be prepared to leave.