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My husbands girlfriend ended Emotional Affair

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I think my husbands girlfriend, for lack of a better word, ended the EA she was having with my husband. I almost feel sorry for him, kinda stupid isn't it? He dooesn't have a prepaid phone like I thought and there hasn't been any communication between them on his cell at all since 11-2-08. He's been moping around like he's lost his best friend, makes me sick!! I asked him last night if he was happy and he said no, I asked why and he said he didn't know. I asked if he were unhappy with me and he said of course not and he started crying. I know its because she won't have anything to do with him, sad isn't it? I've made up my mind that after the holidays, I'm asking him to leave. I deserve better than him, I'm so tired of this emotional roller coaster and I think enough is enough. He's done this before and I'm sure it'll be just a matter of time before he does it again, am I doing the right thing? I'm not even sure I love him anymore I think I haven't really loved him in the past 5 years, he had his full blown, threw it on my face, affair with a much much younger girl, we lived in NC and in any other state he would've been arrested. I should've let him go then...
 
#2 ·
Multiple EAs and a PA with a minor? He’s still “shopping”? TOW Probably dumped him for the same reasons. Yes you are doing the right thing, move on. This is not a marriage and you deserve better.
 
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Thanks Justean, you are so right, I think I am doing the right thing, it will be so hard for my little boy, he's only 8 and loves his dad..so sad, thanks to all of you for your support, its really shocking to see so many people coping with the same thing I am, do you sit there at night saying to yourself, how did it ever come to this? I do, every night. this is a great website to pour out your heart and soul and the undescribable hurt I feel..gosh its so very hard...
 
#7 ·
A man that is happy at home will not cheat. period. And yes, from the information I read, I blame you at least 33%. It takes 3 people to cheat. A spouse and the 'other' are in the equation, but there's an uncaring spouse in the mix somewhere.
I've been in the situation, and I would NOT have made the emotional connection with the other woman if my wife had been there for me.

You say you haven't loved him for the past 5 years! So apparently everyone that has replied so far thinks it is his fault for finding love elsewhere when he's been trapped in a house with an unloving wife.

Don't get too high on thinking how much better you are than this poor guy.

THIS IS YOUR FAULT!
 
#10 ·
Seriously??? No wait.... Seriously? Are you kidding?

First off, I agree that most happy spouses don't cheat, but that doesn't mean that some don't.

Now, he may not have been happy. He may not have been fulfilled, but that is no excuse to just go out and start screwing someone else! That's ridiculous! I can see the feelings of wanting something else if you are not happy, but you should address those before you start spreading your wealth around.

You saying its her fault is like a guy blaming McDonald's for being fat. "Well, if McDonald's wasn't there, I wouldn't have ate the food"....

Simply stupid IMO
 
#8 ·
Alpha Bravo - don't lay the blame on her - her husband had a choice - as does anyone who cheated - to come to their spouse and communicate why they are unhappy and why they have had thoughts about straying for various reasons. If he never told her he was unhappy or what was wrong with the marriage - exactly how could she have stopped it....mind reading?
 
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exactly TNgirl232 is right I dont think its her fault I think that it does take a certain point and something is wrong when they stray of course you arent going to cheat if you are happy but still he cant put all the blame on her he should have told her how he felt and worked from there not gone out to find something else.
 
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