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Old 06-01-2012, 10:19 PM   #226 (permalink)
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Bet she'll be cheating on him in less than a year. Don't be surprised if they both end up on skid row
Hmmm don't think so. She has been faithfull to his MOM for years, she has the mindset of the classic OW more than a WGF/WW. IT seems she stayed being the OW once OP dumped her.
On the other hand MOM seems a hard core cake eater. He will replace the role of OW very soon (he will try even make his BW the OW). They never give up the cake on the side unless they are forced (his BW had enough and kicked him out). He will find himself ''empty'' very soon without cake.
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Old 06-02-2012, 07:08 AM   #227 (permalink)
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Old 06-02-2012, 07:37 AM   #228 (permalink)
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Don't you just wish all the cheaters could magnetically attach to each other and leave us honest folk alone? match made in heaven indeed!

Yes! This is a wonderful thought.
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Old 06-02-2012, 03:12 PM   #229 (permalink)
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Hmmm don't think so. She has been faithfull to his MOM for years, she has the mindset of the classic OW more than a WGF/WW. IT seems she stayed being the OW once OP dumped her.
On the other hand MOM seems a hard core cake eater. He will replace the role of OW very soon (he will try even make his BW the OW). They never give up the cake on the side unless they are forced (his BW had enough and kicked him out). He will find himself ''empty'' very soon without cake.
I kinda agree with this. I think if she cheats on him, she'll be admitting that she made the worst mistake of her life. Right now she's probably in denial. I wouldn't be surprised at all if he cheats on her though. Just a matter of time really. The OMW is filing for divorce and suing for alimony and child support, so I'm sure he has a lot to look forward in coming years. He'll need some cake to help him cope with the stress.
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Old 07-01-2012, 07:40 PM   #230 (permalink)
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Tomorrow would have been our one year wedding anniversary. Does it sound bitter if I post something nasty on FB? I know she checks mine still lol
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Old 07-01-2012, 07:42 PM   #231 (permalink)
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Tomorrow would have been our one year wedding anniversary. Does it sound bitter if I post something nasty on FB? I know she checks mine still lol
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Bitter? Maybe cleavage shots of the new hottie you're dating?
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Old 07-01-2012, 07:53 PM   #232 (permalink)
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Hahah. Unfortunately no new hottie just yet.
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Old 07-01-2012, 07:58 PM   #233 (permalink)
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Leave it alone....like you don't even care any more, much less remember the date.

Drama feeds drama! why go there?
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Old 07-01-2012, 08:56 PM   #234 (permalink)
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BB,

Just reread your old posts in your thread. And you will not want to ever contact her again.

But if you really want to send a message then block her on FB.

Nothing sends a better message than crickets.

And she will get the message that you did not forget the anniversary.

Go find a great girl and live your life.

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BB,

Just reread your old posts in your thread. And you will not want to ever contact her again.

But if you really want to send a message then block her on FB.

Nothing sends a better message than crickets.

And she will get the message that you did not forget the anniversary.

Go find a great girl and live your life.

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Yea I'm leaning towards not posting anything.... still tempted though.. lol. Just to let her know I am actually much happier without her in my life(which is true). But whatever, probably will leave it alone
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Old 07-02-2012, 10:46 AM   #236 (permalink)
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Hello,

Sorry for what is happening to you. I read through your thread and I just have to ask....

Did she ever explain why she cheated for so long? I guess she did not want her mom to be heartbroken but what did she say was lacking in your relationship?

7 years and then cheating for 1.5? Geez. During those 1.5 years, how often would her and this OM meet up for sex? Do you know?

Good luck my friend.
She never gave me a good answer. Cuz there really isn't a good answer. She said she got lost and couldn't help herself. And that after awhile, she justified it in her head so it didn't seem so wrong. The bottom line is that she had huge self esteem issues. She also had daddy issues. I tried to help her with both when we were together, but she chose to betray me instead.

The year before we got married, we lived about 2 hours apart and I only saw her once a week. Her and the OM probably saw each other the rest of the week lol. I read emails that hinted that they saw each other all the time.
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Old 07-02-2012, 11:22 AM   #237 (permalink)
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The best revenge is always indifference. It's sort of like the saying, there's no such thing as bad publicity. Well, there's no such thing as negative attention, either, even though we wish there were.

I'd make up some howlers, post them here, and then don't post anything on her page at all. As my dad likes to say, "let's not and say we did."
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Old 07-02-2012, 01:17 PM   #238 (permalink)
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Haha. Well I hadn't written anything out for today but I'll post something that I wrote back in May. Thought about sending this as well but decided against it:


It was May 11, 2004,
When I started dating what turned out to be a wh*re.

We made each other promises to be together forever,
But instead you f*cked bruiser, who is so far from better.

We took so many Reno trips when we had the gambling itch,
But none of that means sh*t cuz you're a f*ckin b*tch.

I took care of you no matter what,
But you turned out to be a huge f*ckin s!ut.

Happy "anniversary" c*nt
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Haha. Well I hadn't written anything out for today but I'll post something that I wrote back in May. Thought about sending this as well but decided against it:


It was May 11, 2004,
When I started dating what turned out to be a wh*re.

We made each other promises to be together forever,
But instead you f*cked bruiser, who is so far from better.

We took so many Reno trips when we had the gambling itch,
But none of that means sh*t cuz you're a f*ckin b*tch.

I took care of you no matter what,*
But you turned out to be a huge f*ckin s!ut.

Happy "anniversary" c*nt
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Old 07-02-2012, 01:22 PM   #240 (permalink)
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no don't post it

but it was good that you wrote it out for your own sake
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