Hi,
So I just found out yesterday that my wife of 3 months, who I've been with for 7 years, has been cheating on me for 1.5 years. I can't even believe this is happening to me. We've been together since college and I've always loved her. I don't know what to do at this point? Is it even possible to move past this and save our marriage? I'm completely heart broken but I still do have feelings for her. We are going to go to a marriage councelor but I don't know how they can help me trust her again. She claims she wants to be with me and have a future with me but I can't even tell if shes lying anymore.
Just like addictions, one day at a time, stop repling to her text, it is so unhealthy for you.
Everytime you return her text you are back to day one in healing from this pain. You will find that the pain will fade eachday as you continue to stay away from her.
I want to stop drinking, but I keep having that one beer and it start all over again. Get it?
Move on, one day at a time, set a goal. As time passes the need to contact her will pass, but you must avoid her and her drama or you will never heal and this need for her won't go away.
So please emotional protect your self and stop returning her text.
Yea for sure. I know you guys are right. I don't trust myself to not respond to her text messages so I'm just gonna have her number blocked through AT&T. She's already ruined so many of my nights out with my friends, I can't let her do that anymore. Especially with the holidays coming up. Posted via Mobile Device
BB, have you been in contact with a lawyer and started the proceedings going?
I know it is real hard but the sooner you get started, the soone ryou are done. And you dont want to have to worry about joint taxes in 2013 if your still married at the beginning of 2012.
Yea I have. She was served with annulment papers on November 1. So just gotta wait now until December 1 to do anything. Yea it was hard to talk to a lawyer but I can't wait till I'm officially annulled. I definitely wanna start the new year without her Posted via Mobile Device
After wrestling with the decision for so long, I decided im gonna try to find out if anything happened with that other guy. Ive been bothered by just the fact that I don't know for so long that I figured it's best to find out for sure so I can put it behind me.... Let's see what happens... Posted via Mobile Device
yeah, Im a need to know thing kind of guy myself and I understand the drive to do that, of course, that sort of thing can either help you detach or make things worse
Oh, I was suspicious about another guy a few years ago and wanted to know if there was anything that happened between them too. One of my friends is very good friends with the guy that I was suspicious about so I had my friend call and try to find out if anything happened. He knows the guy really well and says that he has no doubt in his mind that nothing happened between him and my wife after talking to the guy. So yea, whatever, now I know atleast(assuming it's true) and can just put it all behind me. Still doesn't change what she is. Posted via Mobile Device
She's so far beyond R it's laughable. You need to take care of you, and move on. Unfortunately your wife is such a broken person, that only the most pathetic guy would ever trust her at this point.
Definitely man. Right now I'm just glad I have so many awesome friends to surround myself with. And she definitely can't say the same. Some of her former best friends are now the ones helping me out! Posted via Mobile Device
The other day I drove by her apartment complex cuz I was in the area for work. Huge mistake. I've been in depression mode ever since. This is the longest that I haven't been able to shake feelings of sadness. Even tried to get myself mad all over again but doesn't seem to be working lol. Posted via Mobile Device
So one of my friends apparently found out that there was even more guys that she has been with from work. I didn't even know he was looking into it. Should I confront her about it or not? Posted via Mobile Device
Yea I am done with her... But a part of me wants her to know that I know about more guys. And maybe even tell her family that there were more guys Posted via Mobile Device
Sounds like you want closure, for everyone to see what kind of tramp she is and that somehow this will make you feel better.
It won't, You won't get closure.
The best you really can do for you is to delete her from your life and mind.
Post her on the cheaters site so others can be warned if you really want to do something, but that's your choice and it may make the divorce even nastier. Posted via Mobile Device
Yea I ended up confronting her about it. Pointless though, she just denied it. But it made me realize I have absolutely nothing left to say to her. Don't know if I'll ever talk to her again. Posted via Mobile Device
Her family will probably, eventually take her back. But she will always be looked on as a cheating skank. You know when you were young and there was that lady that everyone avoided, who always looked a little pained in company and never seemed to stay very long at family gatherings. She will take a date to one of these things, and he will witness her shunning and "bingo". That is the last she will see of him.
The fact is that you have no idea whether she wants to reconcile because if she can get you to take her back, maybe her family and your friends will. Tell her that you will throw her a bone by inviting her to some parties at your house, as your ex who you get along with famously. And she can see you investing your life in a new love. OUCH!
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