Hi,
So I just found out yesterday that my wife of 3 months, who I've been with for 7 years, has been cheating on me for 1.5 years. I can't even believe this is happening to me. We've been together since college and I've always loved her. I don't know what to do at this point? Is it even possible to move past this and save our marriage? I'm completely heart broken but I still do have feelings for her. We are going to go to a marriage councelor but I don't know how they can help me trust her again. She claims she wants to be with me and have a future with me but I can't even tell if shes lying anymore.
Do you seriously believe that she would contacted you if the OM had contacted her first? What does the answer tell you where you stand on the pecking order of men in her life?
I talked to her yesterday.... I screwed up and got in touch with her.... I wish I didn't. She sounds so completely broken. Almost suicidal... I feel so bad for her. I donno what to do Posted via Mobile Device
You're doing it. If you want to throw her a bone, call her family, tell them if you were able to call her, they are able to call her. That is the limit I would get involved.
Show her the same respect and caring she showed you. None!!!
Spend your time getting to know you again. Work on yourself so when you find a new lucky lady; your head and heart are in the right place for a new relationship.
She needs to fix herself. You cannot do that for her.
The annulment hasn't gone through yet. We're waiting for the court date. I'm thinking it'll be some time in February now.
Yea I told the OM's wife a long time ago. On October 19. I have no idea if they are trying to R or what. But from the sounds of it, the OM really did leave my ex. She just sounds completely broken and alone. Posted via Mobile Device
Yea I'm trying my best to. I decided that the most I can do is recommend highly to her that she seek out counseling. I don't see her being able to move on unless she does. But other than that, I guess there's nothing more for me to do. Her family knows that they can get in touch with her. She's still in touch with her brothers and some of her cousins. I'm sure the rest of her family will come around eventually. Posted via Mobile Device
My friend saw her today to drop off some of her things. Said she looks really scrawny in a bad way like she hasnt been eating at all. Meanwhile I've gained 10 pounds of muscle since I left and am probably in the best shape I've been in since I've known her. Not sure how to feel about her not taking care of herself.... But karma continues to be a ***** Posted via Mobile Device
My marriage is officially annulled as of today! Thanks to everyone here for helping me out and steering me in the right direction. My life would be completely different today if I never discovered what a keylogger was. Posted via Mobile Device
I haven't talked to her in more than a month. She didn't have to be there. I think she's thought we've been annulled for awhile now. She probably thinks that we were annulled when she got served papers back in November. She never asked when it would be official and I'm sure she doesn't know how long of a process it actually was. Posted via Mobile Device
I saw text messages on her phone and then she admitted to everything when I confronted her. She said she wants to fix things with us and that she won't ever talk to the OM again. I was willing to try out counseling but I installed a keylogger on my computer. With that, I found out she had a secret email address with more than 700 emails to just him. I read so much crap on there, I couldn't even recognize her anymore. And she had him come to the apartment after she promised she wasn't going to talk to him anymore. I left right away at that point Posted via Mobile Device
Lol she applied for a credit card under my name. Got a call from capital one this morning. Anyone know the jail sentence for that kind of credit card fraud in california? Posted via Mobile Device
Either way get a legal advice right away. That's not something to let her get away with, make sure to check your credit score to see if anything is out of the norm.
Capital One is not going to anything other than deny the card. What you need to do Betrayed is 1 Make sure Capital One does not record the denile on your credit reports and 2. You need to contact the big 3 credit agencies and have them flag your credit report the identity theft and attempts to apply for credit - if she tries it again the Red Flag will give them a warning to investigate. Posted via Mobile Device
And you need to see if she has opened any other cards in your name. This should show up on your credit report that you should now request. Posted via Mobile Device
I would find out how to lay charges against her , she knows she is breaking the law just as she knew she was having an affair . Treat her as you would any other criminal, report her and if possible have her prosecuted. Posted via Mobile Device
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