Hi,
So I just found out yesterday that my wife of 3 months, who I've been with for 7 years, has been cheating on me for 1.5 years. I can't even believe this is happening to me. We've been together since college and I've always loved her. I don't know what to do at this point? Is it even possible to move past this and save our marriage? I'm completely heart broken but I still do have feelings for her. We are going to go to a marriage councelor but I don't know how they can help me trust her again. She claims she wants to be with me and have a future with me but I can't even tell if shes lying anymore.
The best revenge is always indifference. It's sort of like the saying, there's no such thing as bad publicity. Well, there's no such thing as negative attention, either, even though we wish there were.
I'd make up some howlers, post them here, and then don't post anything on her page at all. As my dad likes to say, "let's not and say we did." Posted via Mobile Device
Haha. Well I hadn't written anything out for today but I'll post something that I wrote back in May. Thought about sending this as well but decided against it:
It was May 11, 2004,
When I started dating what turned out to be a wh*re.
We made each other promises to be together forever,
But instead you f*cked bruiser, who is so far from better.
We took so many Reno trips when we had the gambling itch,
But none of that means sh*t cuz you're a f*ckin b*tch.
I took care of you no matter what,
But you turned out to be a huge f*ckin s!ut.
Haha. Well I hadn't written anything out for today but I'll post something that I wrote back in May. Thought about sending this as well but decided against it:
It was May 11, 2004,
When I started dating what turned out to be a wh*re.
We made each other promises to be together forever,
But instead you f*cked bruiser, who is so far from better.
We took so many Reno trips when we had the gambling itch,
But none of that means sh*t cuz you're a f*ckin b*tch.
I took care of you no matter what,*
But you turned out to be a huge f*ckin s!ut.
Im not gonna post that. She's not even on Facebook anymore. She deleted her account cuz she was afraid of getting harassed by everybody lol. She goes on from her cousins account and stalks everyone from that. But I never intended to post that poem anyway. If anything I was just gonna post how much better off I am today than a year ago today Posted via Mobile Device
Wow today sucked. Ran into a bunch of her old co-workers from years ago. One of them was the b*tch that knew the whole time and helped her sneak around. Don't know why but that just ruined my f*ckin mood. I was visibly uncomfortable and I'm kinda annoyed how I handled it. It just caught me off guard. I should have called her helper a b*tch or something. One of the guys told me though that when he found out, he cussed her out and never spoke with her again.
As of today, its officially been a year since DDay and when I started this thread. I don't come on this site too much anymore but I just wanted to post an update to where I am today and hopefully let the new people here know that things do eventually get better.
A year ago was one of the worst days of my life. I went through pain that I wish no one ever had to go through. It's a horrible place to be in as I'm sure most people here already know. But writing about it today, I'm grateful I went through it. I've learned so much about myself during this last year. I know what I want in life now and who I want to surround myself with. I’ve learned how amazing my friends and family are. And, not to sound ****y, but I’ve also realized that I'm pretty much the strongest person I know. It may sound corny, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Seriously, if you can survive something like this, you can survive anything.
This past year, I've become a better person overall. I'm much more open to try new things. I've become much more outgoing and just all around a lot happier in my life. I didn't even realize that I wasn't truly happy until I got out of that relationship. Looking back at it, I shutter at the thought of ever being with my ex. Life is just so much better now.
I've officially started seeing someone a month ago who is frickin beautiful and all around much better of a person than my ex ever was. The universe is crazy because I actually met this girl with my ex during the brief time that we were married. Actually, I met her on the same day that I first started to get suspicious of my ex. Pretty nuts. If someone told me then that a year from that day I would be annulled from my wife and dating this girl, I would have called them crazy lol.
My advice for new people here, find some hobbies to keep you occupied and make yourself physically fit. Working out really helped me a hell of a lot. I started lifting, running, and doing Bikram yoga and now I just can't imagine my life without all that. Stay busy, get out of the house a lot. That helped me atleast. And just actively try to make yourself grow from everything that you’re going through. Read “No More Mr. Nice Guy.” Really good book.
Update on her? I have no clue if she's still with the OM. I don't really give a ****. Last I heard, the OMW is divorcing and suing him for as much as she can. And according to my friend who still sees my ex at work, she's gotten really big and looks like she's aged quite a bit lol.
I have absolutely no regrets with everything that happened. I truly believe it was the best thing that ever happened to me and anyone else going through the same thing, keep your head up. You’ll get through it too!
Thanks for the update. I´m also glad to hear you doing great.
This will be a good reading for others that been betrayed.And ended up divorced.. Now the know life does not end.
TAM need´s more of this divorce, that ends up with a happy ending.
Thanks again
Happy your doing good and aug it has been a year keep in mind that they were only married for three months after he found out she was cheating. I think that is more than enough time.
Took me after much ic and slapping to get off the pitypot almost 2 years but have a great gf she and om are history and d tells me she is miserable and I DON'T CARE.
I am happy for you that you are healing and have found someone new.
Very funny how you met your new GF. Karma baby!
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