Hi,
So I just found out yesterday that my wife of 3 months, who I've been with for 7 years, has been cheating on me for 1.5 years. I can't even believe this is happening to me. We've been together since college and I've always loved her. I don't know what to do at this point? Is it even possible to move past this and save our marriage? I'm completely heart broken but I still do have feelings for her. We are going to go to a marriage councelor but I don't know how they can help me trust her again. She claims she wants to be with me and have a future with me but I can't even tell if shes lying anymore.
Every situation is different. Was she cheating with some random guy or some guy she has had a relationship with for a long time (before you)? These things make a difference to me.
Only you know if you can ever trust her again.
Protect yourself. Don't have children with this person for a long time.
Separate your money, and kick her out. Get an annulment. Anyone who would not only cheat on you while engaged, bit then go ahead and marry you isnt someone worth bring married to.
Don't be a doormat, kick her to the curb and get the lie of the marriage she tricked you into annullled. Then see a lawyer to find out if you can sue her to get back the money you waste getting married.
Show her their are consequences for lying and cheating. Posted via Mobile Device
She was cheating up to and after giving her vows? That isn't a woman you should even try to stay with, her wedding and vows meant nothing to her. Posted via Mobile Device
She was cheating up to and after giving her vows? That isn't a woman you should even try to stay with, her wedding and vows meant nothing to her. Posted via Mobile Device
It's very hard, and it's very sad. But if she was cheating before you got married during the engagement, the vows took with you were nothing more than reading a script to her. She never meant it. I'm sorry I have been in the same situation.
Hi,
So I just found out yesterday that my wife of 3 months, who I've been with for 7 years, has been cheating on me for 1.5 years. I can't even believe this is happening to me. We've been together since college and I've always loved her. I don't know what to do at this point? Is it even possible to move past this and save our marriage? I'm completely heart broken but I still do have feelings for her. We are going to go to a marriage councelor but I don't know how they can help me trust her again. She claims she wants to be with me and have a future with me but I can't even tell if shes lying anymore.
I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I'm going through a very similar thing. I think it's a good sign that she is willing to go to counseling with you. A lot of people here will have helpful advice and anecdotes from their own experiences, which are going to be better than what I have to say. I can just tell you that I know it hurts like hell and it will for a little while. I'd have a better time with handling my situation if my husband wanted to go to counseling instead of just pretending that I'm the bad guy for exposing the affair, rather than he being the bad guy for having one. I have heard from people that it's possible to make a marriage stronger after an affair, but that both people need to be invested in making it work and the guilty party needs to be willing to accept his/her wrongdoing and be willing to do the work of regaining the trust of the spouse who has been hurt by that wrongdoing. Hang in there and keep posting here because people have lots of great advice and support here.
The guy was someone she met at work a couple years ago. He doesn't work there anymore.
She said that she wanted to tell me awhile ago, before the wedding. We had a big fight one day and she told me she's confused about us....and then the very next day her mom tried to commit suicide cuz she's been battling depression ever since my wife's husband died...
After that we never really talked about anything too much. She now said that she didn't want to break her mom's heart by ending canceling the wedding and risk her trying to take her life again.
I don't know what to do. She does seem like she wants to make things work. I do believe she's really willing... but who knows. I could just be in denial.
I was always the guy that said I wouldn't hesitate to end things if something like this happens. It's just so complicated now though. And I still have feelings for her.....but I donno, I also don't know if I can see things being the same
She said that she wanted to tell me awhile ago, before the wedding. We had a big fight one day and she told me she's confused about us....and then the very next day her mom tried to commit suicide cuz she's been battling depression ever since my wife's husband died...
I found text messages between her and her friend. The guy is married (but separated I think) with 2 kids. She ended it with the other guy yesterday. She claims that she'll never talk to him again and wants to just focus on us.
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Been cheated on for last 1.5 years 
It's very hard, and it's very sad. But if she was cheating before you got married during the engagement, the vows took with you were nothing more than reading a script to her. She never meant it. I'm sorry 
I have been in the same situation.
