he hasn't physically abused me, but has been violent around me because of anger issues, he has mentally abused me. I always blamed myself for his behaviour, what ever it was, i would write endlessly to him asking him to stop how he treated me, because i couldn't talk to him he would blow up in temper, he has always talked alot about what he wants, he never listened to my needs or wants, so i stopped talking altogether, till recently this other guy. Then he tells me he is in counselling for the past 8 months and has had the snip. As far i was concerned i was finished.
The woman that he has had a friendship has been years, even when he was here he would go out of his way to phone her, they even work together, he says she is more like a mother figure to him (she does look like his mother), but she would discuss sex with him asked him to move in, she apparently started discussing sex that she had with other men at work and apparently he didn't like it and they're not friends any more. Apparently it was now not appropriate. I was told men can't be friends with women though by him, so i couldn't ever talk to other men. By the way i don't care about the older woman, he said nothing happened, i think he led her on, he knew 2 years ago she was interested and he then continued the friendship, what does that make him.
so reading his thread
Do emotional/verbal abusers change?
He does use emotional guilt to keep me, he has just told me he has a cancer marker on his latest blood test. I feel bad.
he used guilt to get me to marry him, i didn't want to. he stood infront of me crying saying he couldn't get in the uk otherwise.
whilst i was pregnant with my baby i did talk to a counselor, the long of short of it she told me to get out and never look back.
i've only just recently found an interest in another man, i did finished it but i've open the door for him and he wants in, you know you can date without involving children, i would never introduce a man to my children till i felt confident it was going to be a long term relationship. This is what nanny's and childminders are for.
there is no benefit for me for this marriage, i ask myself should i give him yet another chance, i say yes for the children, i ask myself do i want to live him and the answer is no.
I am going to carry on with the other guy and have a ****ing good time, literally. If the husband walks then so be it i'll wave him off.
listens to the Omen by the prodigy.
Re: I don't know what i want, i don't think i'm being unfaithful 
, this nonsense is utter bullsquat.
