telling the other spouse

Jellybeans · 10-19-2011, 04:00 PM

Your wife is totally going to lose her sh*t which is completely part of the SCRIPT after exposure of the affair.

Just like Eli said--don't own her bad behavior. Just tell her "His wife has a right to know the truth. This would not have happened if you did not have an affair."

beenbetrayed · 10-19-2011, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Jellybeans

Just tell her "His wife has a right to know the truth. This would not have happened if you did not have an affair."

Yea thats the plan if she talks to me about. But I haven't talked to her since I left on Sunday so I probably wont even talk to her still.

beenbetrayed · 10-20-2011, 01:33 AM

The OM is now threatening me over texts. Telling me to make sure I have bars on my windows. Wonderful
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RadicallyAccepting · 10-20-2011, 01:42 AM

Call the cops. He just threatened you.

beenbetrayed · 10-20-2011, 02:24 AM

Police said that it won't hold up in court so there's no point in filing a report
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Eli-Zor · 10-20-2011, 04:02 AM

Ignore him but keep his text messages, if you can extract them from your phone and store them .

It's early days he will be in damage control. His next trick is to gaslight you.

I am sure your wife will find out soon enough or already knows, be patient and observe.
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newlife94 · 10-20-2011, 05:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Eli-Zor

Ignore him but keep his text messages, if you can extract them from your phone and store them .

It's early days he will be in damage control. His next trick is to gaslight you.

I am sure your wife will find out soon enough or already knows, be patient and observe.
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My H has been following the SCRIPT to a T!!!! It is so textbook. He is exposed now for sure. I made the final exposure and it was such a relief for me. I informed his command and now let them take it to the level it needs to go. He will blame me for "ruining his career" but I will respond with "oh really, I made you have an affair right??"

omega · 10-20-2011, 05:45 AM

Whatever you do, don't delete the texts. You can probably still file a police report if you insist - even if they say it won't make it anywhere in court, you can simply say, fair enough, but I want the report to exist in case it escalates. If you go in person to the police station they probably won't turn you away.

chapparal · 10-20-2011, 07:11 AM

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Whatever you do, don't delete the texts. You can probably still file a police report if you insist - even if they say it won't make it anywhere in court, you can simply say, fair enough, but I want the report to exist in case it escalates. If you go in person to the police station they probably won't turn you away.

You have to absolutely file a report and get this on the record.

Also, go to the county attorney and file a compalint. He's elected. If you don't get a response use local news media. Make as much noise as possible.

Jellybeans · 10-20-2011, 07:24 AM

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Originally Posted by beenbetrayed

The OM is now threatening me over texts. Telling me to make sure I have bars on my windows. Wonderful
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Tell him that if he comes anywhere near you or threatens you, you will call the police.

No doubt sh-t hit the fan at home. Good. He needs to own what he did for once.

I would block his # from your phone so he can't contact you (and by the way, HOW does he have your phone # to text you???)

Almostrecovered · 10-20-2011, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Jellybeans

Tell him that if he comes anywhere near you or threatens you, you will call the police.

No doubt sh-t hit the fan at home. Good. He needs to own what he did for once.

I would block his # from your phone so he can't contact you (and by the way, HOW does he have your phone # to text you???)

my guess is his wife gave it to him since he's already moved out

beenbetrayed · 10-20-2011, 10:09 AM

Yea I'm just keeping the texts for now. I'm sure it was my wife who gave him the number. They were together last night
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Almostrecovered · 10-20-2011, 10:16 AM

have you exposed to her family yet?

beenbetrayed · 10-20-2011, 10:25 AM

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have you exposed to her family yet?

Yea I have. They're devastated. They're very traditional so they're basically going to disown her after all this. They really might never talk to her again
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beenbetrayed · 12-24-2011, 03:55 PM

You guys will love this. So my friend broke up with his fiancé because she cheated on him with her ex. The OM happened to be at a club we were at last night with his wife. Me and my friend's brother decided we're gonna tell the OM's wife as soon as we saw them. He pulled the OM to the side while I told his wife everything. The OM got in my friends face and security had to knock him to the ground. Club got shut down. Frickin awesome night.
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