Re: would you kiss or have sex in revenge?
So, if your husband gave other women attention and you felt left out, undesired by HIM, your HUSBAND...and then he broke his vows to love, honor and cherish by playing strip poker with another couple making you feel even more unloved, disrespected as his WIFE...and along comes the same strip poker friend planting a kiss...you would not be tempted? You would not think, maybe this will make me feel a LITTLE better about what he has done in this marriage? No, it was not right, but honestly, read InForTheDuration's last post over and over until you really get it....your last post indicates you might be getting there.
Your marriage has not been a mature relationship up until this point. Your husband sees that and is trying to make it right...it's all in your court now whether you can see it from his end, understand how he must have felt and decide to move forward together by putting some boundaries in place where you don't do things for 'fun' at the expense of your spouse. If you are not ready to do that, you are not ready for marriage.