Wife having a PA

Hurting_In_NC · 10-23-2011, 07:26 AM

Maybe some of y'all aren't understanding my dilemna. I have decided to wait about contacting my wife's employer until I clear it with my attorney. Not because I'm scared or worried she'll be angry with me, but bc I plan on pursuing her for both spousal and child support. But ig she's not working, where would that money come from? Also, how will it look to a judge if I get her fired? Is he going to say that I was more concerned about revenge than the well-being of my children? As much as I want to completely destroy her and the OM, I have to consider my children first and foremost, and try to keep a level head and do the smart thing.

chapparal · 10-23-2011, 07:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Hurting_In_NC

Maybe some of y'all aren't understanding my dilemna. I have decided to wait about contacting my wife's employer until I clear it with my attorney. Not because I'm scared or worried she'll be angry with me, but bc I plan on pursuing her for both spousal and child support. But ig she's not working, where would that money come from? Also, how will it look to a judge if I get her fired? Is he going to say that I was more concerned about revenge than the well-being of my children? As much as I want to completely destroy her and the OM, I have to consider my children first and foremost, and try to keep a level head and do the smart thing.

You have to do what you think is best and I'm sure everyone here is backing you up.

As for exposure you should at least stay in contact with POSOM's wife.

If it were me however, scorched earth wouldn't be a strong enough term.

Shaggy · 10-23-2011, 08:52 AM

It's not only revenge,it's a attempt at ending the affair. A judge would understand that. Also I believe that support is based on what she has been making, not what she is making on the divorce day. This prevents a spouse from taking a minimum wage job to avoid support judgment.
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kenmoore14217 · 10-23-2011, 09:15 AM

EXCELLENT POINTS!!

Maybe some of y'all aren't understanding my dilemna. I have decided to wait about contacting my wife's employer until I clear it with my attorney. Not because I'm scared or worried she'll be angry with me, but bc I plan on pursuing her for both spousal and child support. But ig she's not working, where would that money come from? Also, how will it look to a judge if I get her fired? Is he going to say that I was more concerned about revenge than the well-being of my children? As much as I want to completely destroy her and the OM, I have to consider my children first and foremost, and try to keep a level head and do the smart thing.

Almostrecovered · 10-23-2011, 09:17 AM

btw- make a doctor's appointment

1) get STD testing
2) discuss anti-anxiety meds, this is the most stressful time of your life and there's no shame in getting some help