Anybody have any good Karma stories about their WS's that they would like to share?
My cheater X is remarried (not to the POS she cheated with, but with another guy) while I struggle in the dating game, and every once in while she throws it in my face how good her new marriage is, and what a "loser" I am. Seems like she is getting off easy, I would have thought that the Karma bus would have gotten her by now.
Would love to hear about people getting some payback.
Anybody have any good Karma stories about their WS's that they would like to share?
My cheater X is remarried (not to the POS she cheated with, but with another guy) while I struggle in the dating game, and every once in while she throws it in my face how good her new marriage is, and what a "loser" I am. Seems like she is getting off easy, I would have thought that the Karma bus would have gotten her by now.
Would love to hear about people getting some payback.
My question: Why are you even putting yourself in the position of her being able to say this to you? Why are you even consenting to listen to her opinion of you? Ignore her.
Don't expect Karma. Your ex may very well live a long and happy life with her new husband, with no repercussions whatsoever. Many cheaters go on to live wealthy, happy fulfilled lives while sh!tting on everyone around them and leaving a trail of used-up corpses behind in their wake. Hell, Washington DC and Hollywood are full of such people.
Life is not fair. It never will be. What matters is that when life knocks you down you pick yourself up and you keep fighting. And when life knocks you down again you get back up and keep fighting. And when life knocks you down again you get back up and keep fighting. And when life knocks you down again you get back up and keep fighting.....
My question: Why are you even putting yourself in the position of her being able to say this to you? Why are you even consenting to listen to her opinion of you? Ignore her.
Friend of mine got divorced when her husband left her for a college student, she was 47 at the time. He was 50. Wifey #2 convinces him to get a vasectomy reversed, she gets pregnant with twins. Then she leaves him.
She is driving her own karma bus over and over herself time after time.
How so? If she had really, truly gotten over you and what she did to you by being a dirty cheater, why on earth would she even have to keep throwing it in your face?
You know, it's almost as if she doesn't feel she deserves her second chance of happiness?:scratchhead:
So she just has to keep returning to you to validate herself.
Next time she does it, ask her why she needs to continually seek your validation and your approval of her second marriage?
No good karma stories here, but I have to echo what so many other good posters here have already said. If she was truly living such a beautiful life of wonder and beauty, then why does she have this pathological need to throw it in your face? Sounds to me like your evidence for karma is hidden underneath a layer of pride and destructive behaviors.
When she tells you how wonderful her new life is, try tuning her out and remember that you could still be married to this sorry excuse for humanity. Now you get to live free and with a whole new world of opportunities. Just because you haven't found one doesn't mean you're a loser.
What I don't understand is the need some people have to convince themselves that something must be wrong with the other person's life. Kind of as bandit said, she very well could be living a happy, fulfilled life right now, and the rainbows and butterflies she is talking about very well could be real, but...so what?
Even thinking about wishing for karma shows a level of continuing emotional attachment and concern that should be long gone.
Anybody have any good Karma stories about their WS's that they would like to share?
My cheater X is remarried (not to the POS she cheated with, but with another guy) while I struggle in the dating game, and every once in while she throws it in my face how good her new marriage is, and what a "loser" I am. Seems like she is getting off easy, I would have thought that the Karma bus would have gotten her by now.
Would love to hear about people getting some payback.
My question: Why are you even putting yourself in the position of her being able to say this to you? Why are you even consenting to listen to her opinion of you? Ignore her.
Don't expect Karma. Your ex may very well live a long and happy life with her new husband, with no repercussions whatsoever. Many cheaters go on to live wealthy, happy fulfilled lives while sh!tting on everyone around them and leaving a trail of used-up corpses behind in their wake. Hell, Washington DC and Hollywood are full of such people.
Life is not fair. It never will be. What matters is that when life knocks you down you pick yourself up and you keep fighting. And when life knocks you down again you get back up and keep fighting. And when life knocks you down again you get back up and keep fighting. And when life knocks you down again you get back up and keep fighting.....
Lots of wisdom here. I've lived all of this the last few years, and it's been quite a growth experience.
But can't help to wish for a little justice once in a while.
I've got to co-parent with her, which means she has opportunities to provoke me. But I don't take the bait, but still once in a while she manages to get under my skin.
Lots of wisdom here. I've lived all of this the last few years, and it's been quite a growth experience.
But can't help to wish for a little justice once in a while.
I've got to co-parent with her, which means she has opportunities to provoke me. But I don't take the bait, but still once in a while she manages to get under my skin.
There are two principles in boxing.
1) Do not get hit
2) Hit them.
In life, if you can avoid peoples' actions hurting you (rule 1), then rule 2 does not matter anymore.
Anybody have any good Karma stories about their WS's that they would like to share?
My cheater X is remarried (not to the POS she cheated with, but with another guy) while I struggle in the dating game, and every once in while she throws it in my face how good her new marriage is, and what a "loser" I am. Seems like she is getting off easy, I would have thought that the Karma bus would have gotten her by now.
Would love to hear about people getting some payback.
Maybe congratulate her on finding not one, but TWO suckers dumb enough to marry a cheating wh*re.
Maybe also clue her into the fact that, for as long as she has a working vagina, and you do not, it will always be easier for her to find a partner than it will be for you.
My cheating exH left the two kids and I, our home, and our business, to live with "his soulmate" who happened to be a restaurant assistant manager with four kids by four different men.
He was :surprise: when she left him for one of her waiters....
...and even more :surprise: when he came back after a month out of state and the locks were changed.
He broke into the house, destroyed my personal computer, took a sledgehammer to the walls of the house, and wrote on them, "I can do this to you any time I want, no lock will stop me."
Yet again, he was :surprise: when I had him arrested!
Some people just never learn! He ended up jobless, at a long-term motel with other *****s and junkies, and cried "...it's not fair"
No shyte, Sherlock. It's not fair to use your money on a mistress, miss mortgage payments, skip out on your business, and leave your wife and kids to live in another state with your mistress either!
I don't get it - she claims to be in a happy relationship yet she needlessly pushes her happiness in your face. I could understand if you cheated on her but she is the one who cheated why is she angry with you?
I don't know if she is happy but as everyone else said, don't look for karma because it means you are not detaching and finding a new love. If you are in conflict with your ex then you are still emotionally invested in her. You really can't expect to succeed in dating if you have another woman on your mind.
You are allowing your ex to take up real estate in your head. That is probably her motive in provoking you, she wants assurance that you still care. Lucky her, she has the attention of two men to boost her ego, her new hubby and her ex . When you get to the point where you are totally indifferent to her and getting on with your life and happiness she will lose you. That will be her karma.
She's still emotionally invested in you, that's why she shoves things in your face.
Don't acknowledge it. Next time she comments respond with "good for you" and drop it.
I think my ex was a d!ck and he's still single after 11 years and I'm happily remarried, but I don't bring it uo because I'm not invested in him. Posted via Mobile Device
She's still emotionally invested in you, that's why she shoves things in your face.
Don't acknowledge it. Next time she coleus comments respond with "good for you" and drop it.
I think my ex was a d!ck and he's still single after 11 years and I'm happily remarried, but I don't bring it uo because I'm not invested in him. Posted via Mobile Device
That's exactly what I do...either just ignore the insults or wish her well....kill them with kindness as they say.
her: " my marriage is awesome"
me: "that's great, I'm happy for you"
That normally shuts her up.
If I was remarried she would still be a thorn in my side, but I'd never rub it in her face. The fact that my son doesn't want to be with her (and sometimes goes to her kicking and screaming...literally) could be used as a weapon against her, but that's not me.
I don’t really believe in Karma. What I do believe is that selfish people who continue bad behavior will eventually suffer some consequences for their choices. At least, the probability is higher.
My story started with a D-Day of November 12th 2010. Caught my wife in an affair. I tried like hell to keep my marriage intact. But we separated in late October 2011. This was mainly due to me spiraling out of control emotionally, drinking, poor choices of behavior and coping skills after D-Day. I was a freaking mess.
From that moment on I got my crap together. I was a wreck, but the loss of my family at separation started me down the road to personal self-improvement. I suffered for quite some time along this journey. Admittedly this was mostly self-induced and I realized how much of a “nice guy” I had been all along. I was a pitiful mess. But we all know how traumatic the experience for a BS. Anyway…. I made the decision to better myself in every way. And I stuck to it.
My ex-wife chose a very different path. 3 days into our separation she started communication with her AP again. They probably got together and I would not be surprised if they still do to this day. She then proceeded to start playing the field hard. LOTS of men. Lots of married men (like the AP). Lots of players. Real jerks that were so bad she luckily never introduced them to our young children.
By 2014 I gave up on her. I was finally starting to see her for who she really was. I watched her get worse and worse. The real kicker was finding out about a few men in particular….. real trash. The kind of thing a lifetime of baths in Clorox won’t fix. I had also started seeing a woman myself, and was starting to feel like a new and improved me. I started the divorce and it was finished in October 2014. Very late. But better than never. I wish I had done it on D-Day looking back.
Fast forward to today. I am now living with and engaged to that same wonderful woman. We took it slow. My kids did not meet her for at least a year. And same for me meeting her kids. We had plenty of time to work into a great dynamic. And now things are awesome! This is the woman I should have always been with. I have more in common with her than anyone I have ever met. And I trust her. I can’t wait to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. And my kids and her kids also cannot wait for us to get married. They are just as excited as we are.
My ex-wife finally found a guy that she introduced the kids to. He is a country boy that she met on a dating site. They have been dating just over 6 months now. My daughter is too young to care. My son hates him. He is cheating on my ex-wife. Im pretty sue that she knows this. My kids also know he is cheating on her. I think they overheard them arguing on the phone about it. Anyway…. She is still perusing him. Why? I don’t know. Maybe she thinks that’s the best she can do. Or more than likely she is also cheating on him and thinks fair is fair. Not my monkeys…..not my circus
So that is how things worked out. I am 39, very happy, and have found my perfect forever. She is 38 and wasting time with a dirtbag who cheats on her. She will probably have to replace him with another dirtbag when he finally finds someone he likes a little better. These are her choices and she is starting to suffer some consequences for the first time in her life.
There are people make a lifetime full of bad choices. Whether they pay for those bad choices or not is a lot of luck. A good example is someone who does dangerous passing or other bad driving behavior. They can do it a few times and their luck leads them to believe it's OK, they normalize the risk because the bad outcome hasn't hit yet. The problem hits when you can't have good luck forever. It's not that they have "bad luck", it is that their good luck ran out.
The inherent nature of randomness is that things happen in groups. Flipping a coin 5 times in a row is just as likely to be heads every time as it is for it to perfectly alternate heads and tails. This is what backs the perception that bad things happen in threes, streaks of luck, etc...
This applies to people making bad choices; their luck WILL run out. Just give it time.
My uncle cheated with his ex-wife's hairdresser. He left his wife for the OM and married her.
35 years later they're still together. That's his bad karma. He was with her for her looks, with the penalty that she was a nasty, witchy woman. I imagine it wasn't so bad when she was young and hot. Now she's old and fat.
Karma is you're not married to her anymore, she can't put you through anymore heartache and you see her for exactly who and what she is.
How many people have the gift of full revelation?
And have you ever thought, every time she sees you she knows you see her for exactly what she is. Every single time, this is why she throws sh*t in your face, it's literally her trying to say, no I'm not this thing you see, I'm married with this amazing life.
Every single time.
I'd say that is justice, she will never have your respect.
It's said that when something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.
That is the Karma you bring to yourself... which is your choice?
She left you and finds herself sheltered with ugliness in her heart... isn't that Karma enough?
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