http://talkaboutmarriage.com/coping-infidelity/318474-just-found-out-9.html#post15707665
I referred to my friend here.
It's obviously a very tough case and I'd be happy to expand on any details if people like.
I need some help. I talk to him all day and his mind is so damn messed up. He bounces from hopeful to suicidal. His wife is doing nothing to help him recover. In fact, yesterday, while they were in different cities, he spent the entire day researching basically everything about how to recover from this. She spent the day writing a damn list called "100 Things I Love About Bill"
My biggest contention right now is exposure. Here are all of the facts:
What's keeping her now is that they make a great team, they own a business and have a kid together. He still loves her and realizes his role in messing everything up. Moreso, he understands that he's not at blame here and that a lot of what she did was abusive behavior towards him.
Again, I know that this seems bad but I think there is a good chance here to atleast have the both of them end up happy. I like finding the hard ones to solve.
I referred to my friend here.
It's obviously a very tough case and I'd be happy to expand on any details if people like.
I need some help. I talk to him all day and his mind is so damn messed up. He bounces from hopeful to suicidal. His wife is doing nothing to help him recover. In fact, yesterday, while they were in different cities, he spent the entire day researching basically everything about how to recover from this. She spent the day writing a damn list called "100 Things I Love About Bill"
My biggest contention right now is exposure. Here are all of the facts:
- He's holding on my a string and he's afraid this will be the straw that broke the camel's back
- He broke them up three times before and every time he let them back together (I know, I know. But that's not happening this time). I feel his wife is pining away because he's conditioned her to do so. She needs that relationship ended with no exception so that her focus pivots to where it should be.
- Bill (The boyfriend) and his wife may have been in an open relationship at one time. I don't trust anything he says. On thing of note is that an Ash Mad dump confirms he has joined under a few different usernames, so he was either hiding this from his wife or my friend's wife (who was also on that site)
- My friend fears that if Bill gets kicked out then Bill will focus 100% on his wife
- My friend has significantly more financial resources than Bill
- A part of the affair took place in IL, which does have Alienation of Affection laws.
What's keeping her now is that they make a great team, they own a business and have a kid together. He still loves her and realizes his role in messing everything up. Moreso, he understands that he's not at blame here and that a lot of what she did was abusive behavior towards him.
Again, I know that this seems bad but I think there is a good chance here to atleast have the both of them end up happy. I like finding the hard ones to solve.