Re: My wife cheated on me, can I get over all it?
You sound just like me, wife cheated, two kids, everything is in black or white. Here's what I found out. When I new for sure that my wife was cheating I obsessed on everything she did and said. I spent all my time trying to catch her in lies. She would say we needed to work on our marriage and then I would catch her in another lie. IT WAS DRIVING ME NUTS!. There was no way for me at that point to forgive or forget and honestly I didn't want to , to many years of crap.
But I think if she had come completly transparent years ago in her activites we could have worked things out, my life was always an open book to her , her life was always secret. If you are like me you will always suspect and look for clues, that is no way to live.
For you to get past this and be able to trust again she must open up everything to you, if she refuses as my wife did, I'm not sure who you will ever learn to trust again.
I wish you the best of luck, I know exactly where you are and how it feels.