My first post leading up to this starts here: Wondering if my wife is cheating
Two nights ago i finally found their secret email. She moved out and hasn't been here other than to get things since that monday night two weeks ago. I wanted a divorce right off. Even without proof of the affair her getting physical to protect it was enough for me. She has had the last two weeks till i found the proof to come clean.After dropping the info on her I handed her divorce papers. She is still wanting to talk but doesn't get anywhere with it. She claims she loves me but has no action to back it up. I admit I would consider it if she did. But so far she hasn't even stopped talking to him. I believe the finacial aspect is the issue. We are not rich but we are comfortable. Everything including our home is paid for. We still have to work as usual.
After me getting into her known accounts which she had told me the password for a while back while helping her with a computer problem I put it in my phone just in case i needed it in the future. Turned out to be the one for the secret account. I had been supicious for months.
Anyway I don't believe her at all now. Our relationship prior to that was already stranded and her honesty was already and eroded thing to me. She is coming over tonight to talk. Not sure I should though. Words is all she has so far. No actions. I have told her she will have to fight for me but she keeps talking and does nothing. When I tell her what she can do she doesn"t. I told her if she saw him in person even though she doesn't live here she had to tell me up front. She told me after that they ate out the other night. Only after two people I know saw them. I told her you could post something about me on Facebook. She said "really are you kidding". Well that might be a lot to ask since she has done everything to make me look bad to her friends but I would get my attention she is serious.
I really hate to give the marriage up but I think at this point I'll be a fool to stay. A free pass seems to be what she wants. Last weekend she wanted to talk Sunday. We were discussing it on Friday. I said what abut saturday night? She said she was watching our favorite team play football with her dad. I said yeah right. It's her boyfriends favorite football team also. She got mad and said she needed till sunday to think and admitted she was watching it with a group of friends and he was there also. Claiming she has another girl he is seeing now.
She down plays their relationship. They mostly talk. The emails prove sex was involved but claims they never saw each other much. She wanted to talk again this weekend. I said saturday night again. She said she was going to her moms and going to bed. Then said a coworker had lawyer friend and she was going there to talk last night. Doesn't sound at all hopeful to me. Plus I ask her why she changed her passwords on everything. She got mad and text them to me. I told her i didn't want them. She has now been caught and I am not forcing her to give them to me. I said you have to regain my trust and locking me out doesn't help. But if you aren't willing to show me I can trust you are honest making you give them to me will not help anything. Later I checked and she had changed them.