You cannot file for divorce due to adultery if you screw her again. Then it can be construed as you forgiving her. Or that it was part of an open marriage. Just maintain course. When she is out of the house. Then ask her and her mom out to dinner. When the conversation turns to her cheating and mom defends. That's when you read the post about her screwing the OM. Then get up, pay the check and leave. And let mom and daughter deal with the fallout. Do not sleep with her again. Encourage the STD test.
tigercat, in many cases, the person who files first gets the advantage, consult with a divorce attorney. In the meantime go check out Dad's divorce and read the experiences of other men who have gone through divorce.
Sleeping with her now would:
- reset the clock
- be seen legally as reconciliation
- make you 1/2 responsible for her debts up to this time
- if she's pregnant, could trap you into legally and financially responsibility for the OM's child.
Stop playing the hope game.
Do NOT sleep with her at all.
File the divorce yourself.
Take actions to protect and prepare yourself.
She has a **** storm brewing up that wizards sleeve of hers and I think you better make damn sure that you've got some better magic to counter it with.
Stop stalling, TAKE ACTION.
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Really who knows what the f*ck she is thinking... ? She is in a mental and emotional sh*tstorm compounded by a massive chemical imbalance in her brain caused by her affair...
Its not important what shes thinking. You wont figure it out, and even if you do its doubtful it makes any sense to a sane person... trying to follow her thoughts, excuses and explanations is chasing your tail.
Stop trying to figure her out, Get out of her head!! Its a f*cking mess in there and will only suck you into the craziness.
Really who knows what the f*ck she is thinking... ? She is in a mental and emotional sh*tstorm compounded by a massive chemical imbalance in her brain caused by her affair...
Its not important what shes thinking. You wont figure it out, and even if you do its doubtful it makes any sense to a sane person... trying to follow her thoughts, excuses and explanations is chasing your tail.
Stop trying to figure her out, Get out of her head!! Its a f*cking mess in there and will only suck you into the craziness.
Take action.
Repeat:
TAKE ACTION.
I hear ya, her head is so screwed up right now that i don't think she even knows what she is doing. After i got the message from last night i never replied anything. Well some time this morning she send the same thing again, "would you sleep with me one last time?", well i still don't reply then she sends me this gem "just letting you know i just got back from the health unit, i don't have anything" lol...i don't know if she is telling the truth that she went but i do know if she did go to get checked then she is admitting she slept around. If she is pregnant it will be a wake up call because this OM doesn't give a sh*t about her. She has no1 to blame but herself for her actions. I never had any intentions of going sleep with her because she seems to be up to something and i lost all trust i had in her. I just wanted to know what some of u thought she was trying to pull because she is being really suspicious.
Like I said before, her txt msg is hinting that she is now ready to admit what she has done. Since it's not like you didn't know already you can continue ignore it to see how she change her tunes in coming days. Or, you can take this opportunity to see her in person to have more honest talk about what the hell she's been up to. But, no matter what STD results she claims, do not sleep with her!
No I don't want to sleep with her, thats why if i meet her, we will meet in a public location. I'm not taking the chance of going to the house and she starts being all over me, that would be hard to stop if something got going (hey i'm a man, cut me some slack lol)....sooooo i don't even want to take that chance, if she has something to tell me , it will be in a parking lot or at a resturant. I don't believe she went get checked for STDs...i'd have to be there for those tests and result before i would even consider sleeping with her again, if ever.
Only expose if you have enough evidence so hat you will always be completely satisfied that you know the truth. In other words, once you expose, your sources may dry up.
I know of many Betrayed Spouses who jumped the gun and exposed prematurely. Despite the evidence being very solid, from an outsider's perspective, anyway, they often have doubts down the road and ruminate abut whether they got it right.
So, until you are certain that you will have no future doubts, hold off and gather.
If you know the OM name, you can say you hired a PI, and the PI gave you the details, but you don't know who the PI talked too. Perhss OM bragged to a buddy? Posted via Mobile Device
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