so should i say yea to her question, show up and just try to talk to her??? do you really think she is ready to admit to her mistakes??? to me it kind still seems like she is being selfish and is up to something. I don't want to go and mess up my case by her doing something stupid. Like i said she could be trying to get me there to have sex with me and say she is pregnant for me but its really OM, she could be trying to give me some STD she caught, or she might just say i raped her if we have sex, i don't know what her intentions are. She might have some advice from someone like one of you said, she will try to sleep with me so it seems we reconciled and the adultrey would be thrown out the window.....i just don't know what she is up to
I wouldn`t even speak to her until I moved my ass back into MY house and got the evidence I needed to get her to admit and maybe start working on fixing it or working on divorcing.
Either she is starting to wake up from her fog and trying to reconcile by offering sex. Mind you, she may still stick to her story that there has been no sexual involvement with OM, or she may come clean asking for a chance for R.
Or, she has ulterior motive suggested by some other posters. But, frankly, the notion of her having been pregnant or trying to pass on her STD to you seem a bit far fetched to be honest. The paternity of baby is easily verified these days. The only possibility is if she is indeed pregnant she may demand you finance her abortion a couple months down the line convincing you it's yours.
Or, maybe she is still confused as to what she wants, and she is trying to figure it out by sleeping with you one last time?
Frankly, God knows what she is thinking honestly. But, as long as you make sure not sleeping with her, it may be worthwhile using this opportunity to have a face to face talk with her. Meeting her in public place seems a good idea. You must control yourself.
In most states, any child born in the marriage is considered a child of the marriage. Even if the husband is not the biological parent he is legally responsible for that child.
You'd better consult with a divorce attorney to protect yourself from any legal responsibilities which may arise from any pregnancy by your wife.
In most states, any child born in the marriage is considered a child of the marriage. Even if the husband is not the biological parent he is legally responsible for that child.
You'd better consult with a divorce attorney to protect yourself from any legal responsibilities which may arise from any pregnancy by your wife.
Wow really? how is that right? people cheat on their spouses all the time and i'm sure they wind up pregnant by OM/OW sometimes, but for the BS to be responsible for their wife's sneaky actions is just wrong. I just don't understand that. If the husband is found to not be the father before he puts his name on the birth certificate, he shouldn't be responsible just because he was married to the woman.
Wow really? how is that right? people cheat on their spouses all the time and i'm sure they wind up pregnant by OM/OW sometimes, but for the BS to be responsible for their wife's sneaky actions is just wrong. I just don't understand that. If the husband is found to not be the father before he puts his name on the birth certificate, he shouldn't be responsible just because he was married to the woman.
Legally he is because he is responsible for any children his wife has. No it is not fair. The law is not fair to the husband. It is meant for the welfare of the child. A husband has to legally deal with it in a timely manner. If he waits too long the court will insiste he support the child anyway.
A man unknowingly raising another man's child is way more common that we would like to believe. Some kids end up looking like a best friend, the pool guy or a personal trainer. Go figure.
I hear ya, her head is so screwed up right now that i don't think she even knows what she is doing. After i got the message from last night i never replied anything. Well some time this morning she send the same thing again, "would you sleep with me one last time?", well i still don't reply then she sends me this gem "just letting you know i just got back from the health unit, i don't have anything" lol...i don't know if she is telling the truth that she went but i do know if she did go to get checked then she is admitting she slept around. If she is pregnant it will be a wake up call because this OM doesn't give a sh*t about her. She has no1 to blame but herself for her actions. I never had any intentions of going sleep with her because she seems to be up to something and i lost all trust i had in her. I just wanted to know what some of u thought she was trying to pull because she is being really suspicious.
Some STD tests takes about a week for the results.
No I don't want to sleep with her, thats why if i meet her, we will meet in a public location. I'm not taking the chance of going to the house and she starts being all over me, that would be hard to stop if something got going (hey i'm a man, cut me some slack lol)....sooooo i don't even want to take that chance, if she has something to tell me , it will be in a parking lot or at a resturant. I don't believe she went get checked for STDs...i'd have to be there for those tests and result before i would even consider sleeping with her again, if ever.
You can ask for a hardcopy of the test results. Note that some test results will take a week or more.
A man unknowingly raising another man's child is way more common that we would like to believe. Some kids end up looking like a best friend, the pool guy or a personal trainer. Go figure.
This is a reprehensible evil situation. Women who do this have no conscience.
This is a reprehensible evil situation. Women who do this have no conscience.
Unfortunately this happened to a very close friend of mine. He has since split from the scabby slapper, but raises the child and takes him on weekends and holidays.
As far as he's concerned the child (9 yr old now)doesn't know and as the situation has already f****d his head up, there is no point f*****g up the kids head by revealing all.
But it's true, the law sucks towards the father in these cases and really needs to be looked at.
Although here in the UK there are small steps being made to make women accountable for paternity fraud - very small and very slow steps btw
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Either she is starting to wake up from her fog and trying to reconcile by offering sex. Mind you, she may still stick to her story that there has been no sexual involvement with OM, or she may come clean asking for a chance for R.
Or, she has ulterior motive suggested by some other posters. But, frankly, the notion of her having been pregnant or trying to pass on her STD to you seem a bit far fetched to be honest. The paternity of baby is easily verified these days. The only possibility is if she is indeed pregnant she may demand you finance her abortion a couple months down the line convincing you it's yours.
Or, maybe she is still confused as to what she wants, and she is trying to figure it out by sleeping with you one last time?
Frankly, God knows what she is thinking honestly. But, as long as you make sure not sleeping with her, it may be worthwhile using this opportunity to have a face to face talk with her. Meeting her in public place seems a good idea. You must control yourself.
A WS's fog is a scary thing, i'm not sure what her motives are for wanting this sex one last time but i do feel she is up to something. I have come to realize i have not control over her and her thoughts so i need to move on, if she wakes up eventually to realize she had a good thing she threw away, sorry. Like you said she could be coming around and wanting one last time to maybe sort out her feelings and see what she really wants, but only she knows. Until she shows some signs of remorse for what she did, i WILL NOT have sex with her.
I would hope she wouldn't hate me that much that she would want to pass a STD on to me (thats just crazy and stupid) but with the fog you never know. As for her being pregnant, I pray she isn't because, the OM isn't there to be with her hes there for sex. She has enough on her plate right now with our 2 kids and having to straighten her life out, get it on track as a single parent. She doesn't need another kid right now because she can't even take care of her self.
I keep accusing her of sleeping with OM but she has stuck solidly to her story and doesn't deter. She is my wife and we are still married so i think i have a right to know what she has done. I don't have rock solid evidence to prove she has but from what i have she is admitting she has (why would u tell a random person u did if you really didn't)?
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