oaksthorne

Yeah, Everyone is different. I've seen people who are so effected by Ativan that they need their vital signs taken every 15 min's after only .5 mgs.Then there are those who are only mildly effected by 2mgs. One mg shuts me completely down. I'd make a very bad drug addict, but at least the habit would be cheap.

Hope1964

Anyone read about PISD? I love that acronym. Post Infidelity Stress Disorder. I had/have it.

I was doing fairly well (Dday was ov er a year and a half ago) till I quit smoking a couple months ago. Holy he!! it's hard - talk about anxiety! I wish I'd quit before I found out. I don't know if it would have been easier or not. I probably would have started again if I had.

Almostrecovered

yup I restarted smoking on dday after being quit for 2 years, in a few weeks I'll be on attempt 3 to quit post dday

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Yup all of the above.

i didn't realize the shaking part, but I just can't seem to stop and I am either HOT HOT or COLD COLD all the time. There is no comfortable temprature place for me right now.

I love to excerise so I have been a lot more, maybe to much.

Violent thoughts....not to my H but to the OW! I would never do anything but just the thoughts that pop into my head. Sheesh how long before those stop?

X-unknown

First I want to say how much I appreciate your posting this because it is such a good idea and on so many levels. Just being able to talk to someone who is not going to gossip about it is huge.

major depression/crying bouts/breakdowns that come from little triggers
FOR SURE!

rapid weight loss/loss of appetite
Its one thing I don't mind.

lack of sleep/insomnia/nightmares
It was insomnia but for a while now I've just slept for hours more then usual. Some defense thing the mind / body do?!

possible bouts of nausea/diarrhea
Yep. Now I know what it means to say "You / This makes me sick"

waves of anxiety/panic attacks
I was diagnosed with Anxiety disorder and am trying a couple things (med wise) and some personal therapy. This stuff really screws up your day.

possible suicidal thoughts (if this happens immediately get medical help)
No thats not me but I'm on antidepressants and anti anxiety stuff so that may well be helping to control that.

lots of fantasizing of either violent events of your husband or OW or both or revenge tactics
Real anger (contained) but not planning and murders.

lack of ability to concentrate or focus (be very careful while driving, I almost got into a big accident the day after dday)
Totally!

forgetting appointments or events
I don't think I forget appointments or events.

physical shaking is possible as well
Heck yes!

immune system getting suppressed and picking up nasty cold or flu

notreadytoquit

Ever since D day in March 2010 I have picked up several major colds. In fact I have had more sickness these past almost two years than the rest of my 38 years.

10 months after the birth of our son and just about the time my ex h strange behaviour started I found out in a regular physical that I suffer from underactive thyroid. I mean the result was so bad the doctor said : i am surprised you are not in depression. I got that regulated in a more natural way but I still have a growth on my thryroid gland that doctors are trying to figure out if it is cancerous or not(I have had 3 biopsies in 6 months).

In the meantime I had a skin cancer scare and a surgery few days before Dday. Then when I came back to Canada I wanted to get lasik done on my eyes. I was told I am not a candidate because I actually have a disease where my cornea loses its shape and now I have to have a surgery that will maybe help stop the progression of the disease(surgery is arm and a leg and not covered by insurance).

Next week I am taking two days off to do another round of doctors appointments.

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AppleDucklings

major depression/crying bouts/breakdowns that come from little triggers
Yes, had that
rapid weight loss/loss of appetite (some may overeat and gain weight)
Yes. I went from 150 lbs down to 120 lbs in one month
lack of sleep/insomnia/nightmares (some may sleep too much and lose lack of desire to do anything)
surprisingly, I actually slept. Maybe I simply wore myself out from all the crying and not eating
possible bouts of nausea/diarrhea
didn't eat so didn't get that
waves of anxiety/panic attacks
yes
possible suicidal thoughts (if this happens immediately get medical help)
occasionally but only a passing thought, never seriously considered it
lots of fantasizing of either violent events of your husband or OW or both or revenge tactics
No, I just wanted her to leave and for him to come back
lack of ability to concentrate or focus (be very careful while driving, I almost got into a big accident the day after dday)
forgetting appointments or events
The first go round he when he was gone from 03 to 05, yes. I could not focus on anything The second time he left, I made myself stay focused. I was in college and I refused to flunk out of school because of him. He was not going to take school away from me too
physical shaking is possible as well
that, and also on the ground in a fetal postion sobbing
immune system getting suppressed and picking up nasty cold or flu
I actually started smoking (yuck!) Thank God I've been quit over two years now but I can't believe I smoked cigarettes back then. I picked it up in 2003 when I found out about that affair then I quit in 2009. My ex is a smoker so I was always around it

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OOE

When I went in to see my family doctor post-D-Day and told him about the affair and that I needed to be tested for STD's, he said he wasn't surprised. She'd gone to him for a birth control prescription several months prior, and he knew I'd had a vascectomy years before.

It's funny now, but was a little uncomfortable then. He's a retired Navy doctor and is a little rough around the edges.

After we finished in the exam room, he brought my paperwork up to the front desk. As he approached the desk, in a LOUD voice he said, "Mr. OOE needs to have a full STD workup and an AIDS test."

EVERYONE in the waiting room turned to look at me.

I was mortified.

Sure was a relief to see the negative results, though.

Almostrecovered

stupid HIPPA laws

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major depression/crying bouts/breakdowns that come from little triggers
- Yep, I tried my hardest to not cry around DD so when I would shower I would just sit there in the tub and cry.

rapid weight loss/loss of appetite (some may overeat and gain weight)
- I lost 10 pds in a week, I barely ate anything.

lack of sleep/insomnia/nightmares (some may sleep too much and lose lack of desire to do anything)
- I slept the majority of the day.

possible bouts of nausea/diarrhea
- I had nausea I almost would have preferred the morning sickness I had when I was pregnant

waves of anxiety/panic attacks
- I didn't have it too bad

possible suicidal thoughts (if this happens immediately get medical help)
- no suicidal thoughts

lots of fantasizing of either violent events of your husband or OW or both or revenge tactics
- Usually in my dreams they got very violent!

lack of ability to concentrate or focus (be very careful while driving, I almost got into a big accident the day after dday)
- well I was asleep most of the day but when I did drive I had to actually make an effort to concentrate.

forgetting appointments or events
- I didn't have any appointments to forget :P

physical shaking is possible as well
- ^ This! Anytime we talk about the EA I start shaking and it's very noticeable.

immune system getting suppressed and picking up nasty cold or flu
- didn't get sick with the flu but I did feel physically sick to my stomach at random times.
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Thor

It's more than HIPPA, it is general confidentiality laws. I agree with the laws, BTW.

My sis is a marriage counselor and she tells me how there are many couples who come in to her that put her in a similar position. In couples session they deny, but in individual session one of them will confess to an ongoing affair. The therapist is bound by confidentiality not to reveal the confession to the other spouse!

She advised me to be sure not to have the same primary care doc as my wife for that reason.

Almostrecovered

I was joking of course about the HIPPA

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Wow this "doctor" really crossed a line that would make me fire him and get another doctor. He is never (ever) supposed to talk to anyone about anyone elses medical issues other then those doing the treatment. My wife had a doctor that we both went to and this guy talked across the table to her all the time. When I got a new doctor she thought she could switch to her and get the same outside information. My doctor told her that she can confirm or deny that I am a patient. Yeah! This talking loudly about your STD tests in the waiting room? That is really really REALLY poor. I would be worried that the rumor would spread from that to work church etc. And probably assume it was contracted while YOU were cheating. It sure makes trying any kind of R plan a lot more complicated. Get a new doctor!

Wanabeelee

major depression/crying bouts/breakdowns that come from little triggers
HUGE hit here
rapid weight loss/loss of appetite (some may overeat and gain weight)
50 pounds month one
lack of sleep/insomnia/nightmares (some may sleep too much and lose lack of desire to do anything)
I was only getting 5 hours before the affair, four months later I'm getting on ave of 4 a night again
possible bouts of nausea/diarrhea
Then and still do
waves of anxiety/panic attacks
One took me to the ER, still have even on meds
possible suicidal thoughts (if this happens immediately get medical help)
Took a revolver with 4 of the 6 chambers loaded put to my head and pulled the trigger, Guess you guessed that in my greef I had rotated the chamber one click less than what I needed
lots of fantasizing of either violent events of your husband or OW or both or revenge tactics
Wanted to beat the ever loving sh!t of of the OM
lack of ability to concentrate or focus (be very careful while driving, I almost got into a big accident the day after dday)
I still miss turns to places like work (7 years of driving there everday) Sitting at lights till people blow their horn at me, Problems at work and home remembering what I was doing
forgetting appointments or events
B-days of family and friends (yes)
physical shaking is possible as well
Still do, hope it ends some time soon.
immune system getting suppressed and picking up nasty cold or flu
The one thing that has not hit me.. have not been sick other than from mind movies once in four months (not bad for me)

X-unknown

Wannabelee have you talked to your doctor? 50 lbs in a month? Whew.... I didn't know that was possible outside of a concentration camp. That can't be easy on the body to loose that much that fast.