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Old 12-02-2011, 08:24 AM   #151 (permalink)
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You know if this ever came up again, I'd ask her WHY was she giving him BJs? What did she get out of it if they were so stupid?

She was doing it because she was trying to win his affection because she fell in "love" with him but I'd be curious if she would admit to that.
Yes she has admitted this. She thought if she did it good enough he would want her as more than a hookup. Then she said she was so stupid.

I probably rubbed it in when I reminded her she was just a mouth to cum in as far as he was concerned.

I don't think she is really "in love" with him as far as a deep close connection. I think she is just instantly highly attracted to him and since she has never experienced this before she has it confused with love. Imagine being 30-something years old and never having had the experience of instant sexual attraction to someone. Just my theory.

Unfortunately, understanding it doesn't make it feel any better.
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Old 12-02-2011, 09:02 AM   #152 (permalink)
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I realize this is a public forum and people are welcome to comment but this is also supposed to be a safe place for a BS to come for support. Sometimes people need to man up and start getting mad about the situation in order to push them into taking action, so it can be a good thing for people to comment on how bad a situation is, but I am well beyond that point.

Continuing to tell me how bad what she did was is not helping at this point and only serves to rub it in my face. I think about this stuff enough every day as it is.

I've made the decision to try to work things out for the sake of my family because that is something I want. Some people can't bring themselves to do that, others can, and still others are not sure if they can but are willing to try. I am in the third category right now.
To be fair, it looks like it's only 1 user trying to rub it in your face, who resurrected a dead thread. As you've indicated in your later threads, the situation has since changed. Don't let these comments get to you.
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Old 12-02-2011, 09:12 AM   #153 (permalink)
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To be fair, it looks like it's only 1 user trying to rub it in your face, who resurrected a dead thread. As you've indicated in your later threads, the situation has since changed. Don't let these comments get to you.
You're right. Most people here have good intentions. My comments were mostly directed at someone who was just a jerk. I just wanted to stop it as some others had come in as well and probably were reading things for the first time.
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Old 12-04-2011, 07:01 PM   #154 (permalink)
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My wife is a school teacher too. Her first affair was with her principle of that school. Her best friend at the time, another educator, had previously had an affair with the same man.

Dirty little secret... After I found out about what was going on, I was shocked to learn the number of married female teachers in the school system were involved in affairs with other teachers or administrators. 4 out of 5 of the 1st grade teachers at my wife's school admitted to her about having affairs.
Yea I'm not sure what it is about that environment. Maybe it's all the kids and the adults need someone to talk to. Or maybe it's just the informality of the work environment. Or maybe it's all the adolescent hormones flying around all over the place. I don't know. But I do know that all of this didn't start or end with just two teachers doing the wrong thing. It seems like it is going on all over the school.
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Old 12-04-2011, 10:03 PM   #155 (permalink)
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To be fair, it looks like it's only 1 user trying to rub it in your face, who resurrected a dead thread.
I guess you're referring to me. I haven't made one disparaging remark that could be taken as "rubbing it in his face." All I said was- EXPOSE this to their superiors... that's all. They shouldn't be able to get away with covering it up. Again, he said the vice-principal knew and even suggested a way to cover her tracks- WTF?!?!?!

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But I do know that all of this didn't start or end with just two teachers doing the wrong thing. It seems like it is going on all over the school.
This behavior needs to be stopped.

Remember... this is happening at the expense of community tax dollars.

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