Jeres

I probably will. but if it gets too intense over there in wonderland, I know that OM will probably say hit the road, I'm sure this means much more to her than it does him and than where does she go? here? I don't want to see her here, 2 days ago I would of kissed her feet if she returned, right now, I am happy to be apart and getting happier

Jellybeans

Expose the affair to her parents. Let them know she's living w him. How long ago did she leave to live with him? What's the back story on this guy?
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lordmayhem

Keep this song in mind, I Will Survive By Gloria Gaynor

First I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on
and so you're back
from outer space
I just walked in to find you here
with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed my stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
you'd be back to bother me

Go on now go walk out the door
just turn around now
'cause you're not welcome anymore
weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
you think I'd crumble
you think I'd lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive

It took all the strength I had
not to fall apart
kept trying hard to mend
the pieces of my broken heart
and I spent oh so many nights
just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
Now I hold my head up high
and you see me
somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person
still in love with you
and so you felt like dropping in
and just expect me to be free
now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me

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ing

CHANGE YOUR HANDLE. She can and will put the text into google and it will find your thread.

Don't tell her about it. Don't flag that you are doing it.

This sounds like I think the woman you loved is a lying, manipulative cheat.

She is.

Jeres

Her parents know about it. I wrote them a huge esaay detailed with everything in it. They are not people who will challange her and probably won't even say anything - trust me.

He's a sales man, he works in their office a small office with not too many other people in there, especially in regards to dating material. He is in a way playing her, he wept her off her feet, looked out for her, recomended her did all the right things to make her feel special. for instance, would not be overly social with anybody, but had sort of the office looking up to him, than would open up to her a little bit more than other people ( I remember her sort of mentioning something like that) he knew what he was doing, I don't know to what extent he really wants her living there and for how long, I don't see him as someone who really cares deeply about other people (without the obvious example) and wants to build this into something long-term.

There is no chance for reconciliation between us, I really don't see that happeneing whenever this ends. I wish them misery and her a huge amount of guilt that she lives with for the rest of her life.

This is really hard, at times I feel good and at others, I don't. this just sucks and is making me curious about who I will end up becoming. obviously this has shattered me and I wonder how I will ever trust someone again, this is the worst typ eof pain, blindsiding that exists and I never thought I would be in this situation, I have no idea how to handle it, especially since, I 'm sure she's having a much better time than me and it's hard to find fairness in that.

Sorry I rambled a bit, it just came out. I still miss her, I still wonder how in the world this ever happened, why like this? it's been by far, the worst week of my life and I was put here by the person I thought I would be buried next to.

sorry, rambling is therapy. a friend arrives in a few hours and it will be nice to have company.

Jeres

thanks, I look forward to a moment like that song describes!!

Jeres

I can't see how to do this

aug

Rambling is good. Vent here if you need to.

Know that when all this pass, you'll be stronger and wiser. But she will always know what she is and that will never go away.

Jeres

I hope so, right now I feel as if that might never happen, because how could someone treat another like this and eventually find out how crazy they were? she's out to lunch, but I really question if she's going to return from lunch. At this point, I just want to start feeling better and move on

jnj express

Hey Jeres---when you go to the courts---ask for the area, where they have the blank paperwork---tell the clerk what you need, they will give you the proper packet/packets-----take your time filling them out---figure out how YOU wanna split the property, write it on the form, and fill out and sign everything else

If you have any problems with anything---go to google, look up the Calif. Family Codes, in the area of Divorce, property, and custody if that applies, and fill out your form, as needed, its pretty self explanatory---make your copies, ---go to the family law clerk, at the courthouse---file your Divorce---make sure the clerk, stamps ALL the copies, or at least the one to be served, and one of the copies you will keep

Find someone to serve her---it can be done at her work, or where she lives---you can pay a U S Marshall to serve her----they have an office in the courthouse

Once you have served her---she has 30 days to file an answer or she automatically loses on default---so I promise you---the sh*t will hit the fan, and the fun will just be beginning----see she is sitting there figuring you will do nothing, and she can just sit pretty and do her little cheating thing----guess again!!!!!

Shaggy

Even if you don't want to expose to her work now - do it as soon as the divorce is signed.

Keeping her secret does nothing but helps her cheat.

Jellybeans

Spammer alert. Gosh they're soo annoying and unoriginal.
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