Originally Posted by Unsure in Seattle
You GAVE her money?
.... You can't have him sending emails from her account (! I don't even understand how that works unless he has her passwords) to family.
Before DDay #1, #2, and #3... she and blackmail/Singapore guy basically wargamed how to get a divorce out of me that would give her control of her daughters and hence child support and allow her to be with this guy and do whatever it was they were going to do. Ironic she doesn't know his real name huh? All I had at that point was a gut feeling that something was going on and so I cooperated with the post-nupital divorce agreement and protected myself. Because she wanted the DV agreement sooooo badly, I made certain concessions, like transfering $10k to her individual account asap OR completed before either of us triggers the divorce agreement, and I got concessions I can live with and still feel like I'm being a good father to her daughters. So, yes, I gave her money and not a penny more. It's a clear message to her that I'm abiding by the divorce agreement and in fact getting ready for a dv.
Meanwhile, she went back to try the polygraph with a different polygrapher yesterday on how many lovers she had and got inconclusive results again. Apparently her anxiety levels kept spiking even during questions like "Is your name XYZ?" Interesting that not only can she not design a polygraph question set that she can pass, but interesting that she has now 2x had inconclusive results. That's too bad because if she passed, I would feel a lot better about attempting reconciliation... and if she definitively failed, she had agreed to abandon the family and leave.
I've asked her to get STD and paternity tests done. If she can't, when I get to the anniversary of when I asked her to marry me, I'll weigh that appropriately when I decide whether to reconcile or not. Seems kind of bleak right now though.
Yesterday, we had a pretty good day. The night before she recreated our 1st date ever and we had a good time. Last night, was good too. We talked about her inconclusive polygraph and connected for the first time in a while. We were talking about her aunt and some friends from before we moved and I pulled up my Facebook account... guess what I found? You'll never guess.
Either because he created a fake FB account, or because my wife helped him when she had my password, he had a fake account in the name of her lesbian lover where I was that fake account's only friend. And, he posted a video of my wife masturbating and moaning his name on my FB wall!!! There were no comments or likes or anything and because I was with my wife, she deleted it before I could really see what was going on or even when it had been posted. Lucky huh? There was a nice text block he wrote with the video I grabbed and emailed myself before my wife deleted it:
It looks like you might still be using this Facebook account. How does this one work for you? Lets start a clock and see how long it takes you to shut this down... too bad you didn't know I'm still here huh? You really need to be more careful seizure fag boy. Consider this while you think about how I'm out-thinking you each step of the way with YOUR WIFE'S TLC and support!!! LOLZ... [She] does not love you. Look at that statement and consider the truth: 1) she spent all of 2011 choking back vomit and bruises because of you, 2) I took care of you when you refused, 3) she declared herself to me to be my sex slave body and soul and ***** forever in A VIDEO I WILL POST ON THE NET SOON IN YOUR WEDDING DRESS, and 4) she practiced having sex with a GIRL to be ready for my stable. Consider these points against what she has done for you. She ever make a video like this for you? She ever produce a girl on girl movie for your viewing enjoyment?
Protecting myself... several of you have noted this. I've protected all of my stuff... my accounts, my email, my FB, it's all with different passwords that not even my wife knows now since DDay #1. I can't really do anything about her accounts. I have however figured out what is going on. If any of you search on "spoof email" or "spoof SMS" you'll find a variety of services that allow anyone to send fake emails and text messages. I believe this is how he is doing it. GMAIL is the only internet email provider that catches the headers that would even suggest it is fake and only then if you're actually looking for it to be fake. I know she didn't email me that stuff from her account. I was hoping her lover did not have videos but last night, there my wife was masturbating all over my FB wall and screaming his name. Weeeeee.
Apparently I've been talking in my sleep and my wife knows that in February I'm done. I wish she didn't know that. I'm tired of this drama. I keep looking for the woman I believe I married and it's annoying that maybe she's still around somewhere but is being drowned out by all the noise of her life.
To be clear, the gloryhole video was not her
. She has a freckle on her butt cheek that was missing from that video. I really wish that it hadn't boiled down to a super tiny freckle.