chapparal

Its been a long hard struggle for OP. I was about to give up.

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Beowulf

Buttercup: "What about the Rous's?"

Wesley: "Rodents of Unusual Size? I don't think they exist."

I love that movie.

MEM11363

Miracle Max: He probably owes you money huh? I'll ask him.
Inigo Montoya: He's dead. He can't talk.
Miracle Max: Whoo-hoo-hoo, look who knows so much. It just so happens that your friend here is only MOSTLY dead. There's a big difference between mostly dead and all dead. Mostly dead is slightly alive. With all dead, well, with all dead there's usually only one thing you can do.
Inigo Montoya: What's that?
Miracle Max: Go through his clothes and look for loose change.

Beowulf

Anyone else craving an MLT?

Catherine602

What is this?

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Beowulf

What? Rodents of Unusual Size or an MLT?

ROUS are the rats in the fire swamp.

An MLT is a mutton, lettuce and tomato sandwich "where the mutton is nice and lean and the tomato is ripe. They're so perky, I love that."

DailyGrind

Ordered a new KING-sized bed today. Hopefully, she will be able to sleep better, and be happier. Plus, Best Buy had a special on a 40" LCD tv....to
Relay our small one in the bedroom.....more bedroom time together! . We are REALLY getting along so much better. Completely different. This is the best we have EVER gotten along.
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Beowulf

DG, every little thing you do to show you are committed to her is a huge stride in the right direction. I'm so happy for you man. Maybe its time to change your avatar picture lol.

DailyGrind

Hi all,

I can't believe it has been two weeks since my last post. Nothing really dramatic happened until yesterday/today. First, to update....We got the new bed in a week ago. It isn't really helping her sleep all that much better...BUT....now I'm further away, so she can't kick me as easily (when I snore).

I have an overnight at the sleep center, in two weeks. Hopefully that will provide some insight.

Other than that, we have been spending some really good quality time together. I go to bed with her, nearly every night (yes....at {gulp} 8:00 - 9:00 pm). But we watch some tv on our new tv; talk; and 2-3 times a week....get jiggy w'd it! She has started being a whole lot more affectionate (when I hug her....her arms actually seem to have some strength in them, again.....and not just wet noodles.) LOL.

As to "dramatic".....we had made reservations for Easter Sunday brunch. Kids were playing on a jungle gym (VERY smart restaurant owner actually has one in the back, where the open-air section of the restaurant/bar is. We were sipping mimosa's. I turned to her and said:

Me: We are doing better, right?
W: Yes...of course....don't you think so?
Me: Absolutely..just wanted to make sure you were on the same page.
Me: I love you, you know.
W: {wait for it}....."Me too."

I sent her a text today that I love her. She "I luv u 2" back at me.

Ahhh....those elusive words.....are back!!! Still have counseling scheduled for this Saturday. But just wanted to update you all....and THANK YOU...for all the great advice. I hope this sticks...but things seem SO much better. Too early to say for sure. Still wonder, a bit, about the "other phone"...and her start at an EA. I don't think I'm being hood-winked here...she really seems genuine. So...maybe the bygones need to be left as bygones? Focus on the future?

warlock07

I have a change of opinion regarding the other phone. I think there is a good chance that it might be her talking to herself.

DailyGrind

Who knows. I haven't done it in a while....but until recently, when I waivered on my thoughts on it....I would whip out the recording and give a listen. EVERY TIME, I came away absolutely convinced it was a conversation. Maybe it was....but that is over. I don't know. I mean...there WERE other red flags too. TWICE during that two year hiatus...she ramped up her workout routine (once, right at the beginning...and right when the EA started.) Since the EA was blown out.....she really has no interest. She'll go with me...if I twist her arm a little. BUT....I mean..she was hard-core....going to 6:00 AM workout sessions (a couple times with AP)...at least twice a week. I truly believe there was interest in the AP....also, I think there might have been an EA at the start of the two years. Whatever it was....I DO believe it is all over. Now...it is back to 50-50 to making this work. I know *I* won't take it for granted, ever again.

CH

Who doesn't like The Princess Bride?!!!

I showed the movie to my kids and they love it also.

Kids now a days have no idea what good movies are.

I also like a ton of the old black and white movies when they actually had to act since there wasn't special effects and crap to distract audiences from crappy performances.

happyman64

DG,

Keep making it better. Expect the same from your wife!

I am happy for you.

HM64
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bandit.45

I loved THE MACHINE!!!

PHTlump

I think you're right. Sudden interest in appearance is a classic red flag. I have a family member that has been through a hand full of marriages and we can always tell when the current one is on its last legs when the pounds start coming off. Of course, the current spouse is usually oblivious and sees it as a good thing. Poor schmoe.

The red flags were there in the past. But, if you're willing to forgive it, it appears that she's back on board for the marriage. And now that you know those red flags, you'll be much better prepared to manage your relationship in the future.