Pretty Much Have Lost It

DailyGrind · 02-01-2012, 11:40 PM

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Originally Posted by golfergirl

I'd find your wife tiring. She effed up and you're doing the heavy lifting. Where is that fair? How does that solve problems? The issues you found on her list is bs. If that's all it takes for her to seek attention elsewhere, then you guys never stood a chance. You serve to her and the common courtesy of a thank you makes your day. If that's new - her saying thank you - shame on her.
Common courtesy isn't heavy lifting. It's her being semi-decent instead of cold beeyotch.
You deserve more.
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yes...it IS tiring. And making me into someone I don't want to be.

warlock07 · 02-02-2012, 12:48 AM

So whats the plan? Are you going to talk to her about it?

dymo · 02-02-2012, 03:14 AM

Looks like an apology is in order.

May also be your opportunity to come clean on finding those notes she made. (Cat, etc.) Might allow you to talk those over.

Perhaps a full confession may be in order (maybe?) Come clean on the GPS?
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warlock07 · 02-02-2012, 03:31 AM

Would the apology be better in front of the counsellor

golfergirl · 02-02-2012, 05:07 AM

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Originally Posted by warlock07

Would the apology be better in front of the counsellor

In the spirit of stopping spying and coming clean I would firstly confess. I also would do it in MC.
Might be a chance for her to speak about what those numbers are. I believe MC might call her on her inability to discuss anything.
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dymo · 02-02-2012, 06:45 AM

How long is it until the next MC? If it's too far away, you might not want to let that resentment build too much.

Beowulf · 02-02-2012, 07:58 AM

I had sleep apnea. I had most of those symptoms. I never lost a desire for sex. You're grasping at straws. Her health, her sexual availability, her attitude are HER responsibility.

And by the way, she wouldn't wake up gasping if you weren't trying to strangle her in your sleep.

DailyGrind · 02-02-2012, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by dymo

How long is it until the next MC? If it's too far away, you might not want to let that resentment build too much.

Not until the 15th.

I made her another egg/ham/cheese breakfast sandwich, this morning. As I was making it, she asks me "how many days a week are you making breakfast?"...but kind of in an irritated....wtf are you doing, kind of way. I'm thinking...'what? You aren't appreciating it?' She thanked me for it...but not exactly warmly.

I'm hoping my IC sessions give me the clear-mindedness to make the right decisions for this marriage.

Beowulf · 02-02-2012, 08:28 AM

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Originally Posted by DailyGrind

Not until the 15th.

I made her another egg/ham/cheese breakfast sandwich, this morning. As I was making it, she asks me "how many days a week are you making breakfast?"...but kind of in an irritated....wtf are you doing, kind of way. I'm thinking...'what? You aren't appreciating it?' She thanked me for it...but not exactly warmly.

I'm hoping my IC sessions give me the clear-mindedness to make the right decisions for this marriage.

This sounds just like one of the scenes from the movie "Fireproof".

dymo · 02-02-2012, 08:33 AM

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Originally Posted by DailyGrind

Not until the 15th.

Too long. You've already had a setback. Wait, and you risk undoing a lot the progress you've made.

working_together · 02-02-2012, 09:30 AM

All her health symptoms sound like stress related.

DailyGrind · 02-02-2012, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Beowulf

This sounds just like one of the scenes from the movie "Fireproof".

Is that worth seeing together?

DailyGrind · 02-02-2012, 09:33 AM

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Originally Posted by working_together

All her health symptoms sound like stress related.

From kids, maybe? She started displaying these symptoms (in force) after second child. The headaches were there from the start...but not as much the restless sleep. Pre-kids...I don't know what the stress would be from. Over the past 6 years (youngest age) ...the first three...she was a sahm.

Tall Average Guy · 02-02-2012, 10:07 AM

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Originally Posted by DailyGrind

Not until the 15th.

I made her another egg/ham/cheese breakfast sandwich, this morning. As I was making it, she asks me "how many days a week are you making breakfast?"...but kind of in an irritated....wtf are you doing, kind of way. I'm thinking...'what? You aren't appreciating it?' She thanked me for it...but not exactly warmly.

I'm hoping my IC sessions give me the clear-mindedness to make the right decisions for this marriage.

So why are you doing it? You are smothering her! Quit being so damn nice to her all the time. She ignores you, does not do the lifting, and is irritated that you make her breakfast. And your response is to ignore it? Hear what she is saying and stop making her breakfast. It is not working, so don't do it.

dymo · 02-02-2012, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Tall Average Guy

So why are you doing it? You are smothering her! Quit being so damn nice to her all the time. She ignores you, does not do the lifting, and is irritated that you make her breakfast. And your response is to ignore it? Hear what she is saying and stop making her breakfast. It is not working, so don't do it.

It was working until she got that Iphone.