Re: Pretty Much Have Lost It
Its taken a long time to get where you are. Its going to take a long time to get where you want to be.
I've seen several positive signs. For one if she was in an EA she did not show any withdrawal symptoms when she stopped "seeing" him. You haven't been able to find any real evidence of an affair.
She thinks she has made progress and cares for her family. She wants to take a family vacation, she wants to go to Barcelona with you and your answer is to attack her at MC.
I don't think either of you can communicate at this point. She's afraid to talk to you and you seem to be able to push her away with out really trying. Then ,in effect, you get pissed and tell her you want a separation, get out.
Tell her you don't think a separation is a good idea unless she wants a divorce. Tell her you don't see the MC is working and you want to try a different one. Tell her she and your family means everything to you and you want to work with her.
Sitting in a bar is just going to remind her when you used to do that a lot and came home late.