So...how do I combat this "Spectrum?" She's back to being nice to me again. WTF? Just cause I gave her a 1 1/2 week reprieve? Maybe I like being mind-f*cked....being as how that is the only kind I get.
Your surprised? After reading here so long? She simply doesn't know if she can trust you. The next time you talk ask her if she can trust you to do the right thing. Not now, don't blow a good thing.
She's being nice because she thinks you may leave her. That you can pull the plug.
Your surprised? After reading here so long? She simply doesn't know if she can trust you. The next time you talk ask her if she can trust you to do the right thing. Not now, don't blow a good thing.
She's being nice because she thinks you may leave her. That you can pull the plug.
She's being nice because she gets luxury of comfortable life and trips and no demands on her for anything. Posted via Mobile Device
She's being nice because she gets luxury of comfortable life and trips and no demands on her for anything. Posted via Mobile Device
Well...I think I made it clear that WASN'T happening. I also did bring up the Barcelona trip at MC....that I didn't know why she wanted to go....to go with me, or just get a trip to Barcelona. She didn't answer. But, she certainly knows I'm questioning her motives.
DG,
You don't mean that. Even in your current state you don't believe that for a wife nice = not wanting an immediate divorce, and not being overtly cold to you
That isn't "nice". It is the absence of overt, immediate hostility.
NICE = Acting in a loving manner in terms of affection, compliments, spending quality time with you and focusing on you during that time, performing acts of service and yes sex.
She isn't being nice. And you know that at best she will momentarily "pretend" to be nice if you blow 4K on DW.
DG - after 12 years without it, you seem to have forgotten what nice is.
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So...how do I combat this "Spectrum?" She's back to being nice to me again. WTF? Just cause I gave her a 1 1/2 week reprieve? Maybe I like being mind-f*cked....being as how that is the only kind I get.
Well...I think I made it clear that WASN'T happening. I also did bring up the Barcelona trip at MC....that I didn't know why she wanted to go....to go with me, or just get a trip to Barcelona. She didn't answer. But, she certainly knows I'm questioning her motives.
Like I said before. Go to Barcelona by yourself. Oh and buy some nice designer clothes before you go. Get yourself dandied up and let her see you before you leave. Make her jealous and piss her off!
DG,
You don't mean that. Even in your current state you don't believe that for a wife nice = not wanting an immediate divorce, and not being overtly cold to you
That isn't "nice". It is the absence of overt, immediate hostility.
NICE = Acting in a loving manner in terms of affection, compliments, spending quality time with you and focusing on you during that time, performing acts of service and yes sex.
She isn't being nice. And you know that at best she will momentarily "pretend" to be nice if you blow 4K on DW.
DG - after 12 years without it, you seem to have forgotten what nice is.
I think you should apraoch her for sex soon. I doubt she rarely ever initiated, is that correct? If she says no, I would ask her if she cared if you got relief somewhere else.
DG,
You don't mean that. Even in your current state you don't believe that for a wife nice = not wanting an immediate divorce, and not being overtly cold to you
That isn't "nice". It is the absence of overt, immediate hostility.
NICE = Acting in a loving manner in terms of affection, compliments, spending quality time with you and focusing on you during that time, performing acts of service and yes sex.
She isn't being nice. And you know that at best she will momentarily "pretend" to be nice if you blow 4K on DW.
DG - after 12 years without it, you seem to have forgotten what nice is.
Has he tried to have sex with her since she started to thaw?
Like I said before. Go to Barcelona by yourself. Oh and buy some nice designer clothes before you go. Get yourself dandied up and let her see you before you leave. Make her jealous and piss her off!
Oh...it would take a miracle for me to take her. She has seen me go to Amsterdam, Dublin and Shanghai/Beijing (last year.) Places I would have LOVED to take her. But it wasn't even an option last year. I've mentioned, in the past, that there will come a time (this year being the first) where we could consider her going on some of these trips. It just boggles my mind that she seems to be throwing everything away JUST when things were getting to a point where we could REALLY be starting to have a lot of fun. Just crazy.
I also have a potential trip to Brazil, within another year or two. Dubai, UK, Shanghai/Beijing...LA, Dallas, and all kinds of other places are in the future. I'll probably go to Shanghai/Beijing annually. Future conferences in Germany, Poland, Amsterdam, Czech, France....all very possible. And that isn't even counting all the places we are just getting to be able to afford for regular vacations. Very crazy.
I also have a potential trip to Brazil, within another year or two. Dubai, UK, Shanghai/Beijing...LA, Dallas, and all kinds of other places are in the future. I'll probably go to Shanghai/Beijing annually. Future conferences in Germany, Poland, Amsterdam, Czech, France....all very possible. And that isn't even counting all the places we are just getting to be able to afford for regular vacations. Very crazy.
All places where gorgeous women abound, and you tie yourself down to this cold fish....
You go to bed together sometimes now, right? You reach over and pull her to you. If she comes great. If she doesn't ask her why. Then you tell her what you two have is a sexless mariage with only one of you in love. Hasta la vista baby.
You go to bed together sometimes now, right? You reach over and pull her to you. If she comes great. If she doesn't ask her why. Then you tell her what you two have is a sexless mariage with only one of you in love. Hasta la vista baby.
Sure fire recipe for getting laughed in my face....but hey...maybe worth a try. Can't imagine THAT rejection would be any worse than what I've BEEN experiencing.
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