I don't want to rain on anyone's parade, but what happens if she's having sex with him because of the trips???
Just a thought...
Shhhh...just positive thoughts.
Repeat after me...
DG is a sex god
DG is an alpha male
DG is desired by women everywhere
DG's wife is lucky he allows her to go to bed with him
DG's sex life will continue to grow like hair on a Rabbi's chin
I don't want to rain on anyone's parade, but what happens if she's having sex with him because of the trips???
Just a thought...
That's an inevitable consequence of turning the trip into a bargaining chip in the marriage. It means that any improvement can be seen as having an ulterior motive.
Not a question we can answer now, but time will tell. If they do take the trip, then her behavior post-DW will answer it for us.
DG I am happy for you but concerned at the same time.
I don't want to rain on your parade but I have to say - she is not being very loving after reconnecting with her husband after 2ong years.
Thinking as a woman, if I decided that, after a rocky time, I loved my H, I would be all over that bad boy after sex Why would I be cold and indifferent? I made a positive decision that I love him. That means passionate make up sex is in order every day for next 6 months. Its a celebration not a wake.
There seems to be something off in your wife's response. It does not say love but toleration. The attitude is the same?
I am considering that there is a large sum of money coming in, a trip, and Disneyland beckons.
Maybe I am being unfair to your wife so just consider it and keep it in mind. please be cautious in opening your heart. Posted via Mobile Device
DG,
I never saw a response from you about why she was "letting you have sex with her" for a while before the 2 year deep freeze. She told you she was hoping things would "get better" and then she "gave up" when they didn't. I asked you what she wanted. Do you really not know?
As for her motives here they seem very obvious. She is going to be VERY angry and shut down on you if you don't agree to DW. This seems fairly simple. She LETS you have sex with her just enough to get you to feel desire to please her. And then she gets her trip. How can you enjoy sex in that context?
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DG I am happy for you but concerned at the same time.
I don't want to rain on your parade but I have to say - she is not being very loving after reconnecting with her husband after 2ong years.
Thinking as a woman, if I decided that, after a rocky time, I loved my H, I would be all over that bad boy after sex Why would I be cold and indifferent? I made a positive decision that I love him. Loving him toe means passionate make up sex every day for 6 months. it a celebration not a wake.
There seems to be something off in your wife's response. It does not say love but toleration. The attitude is the same?
I am considering that there is a large sum of money coming in, a trip, and Disneyland beckons.
Maybe I am being unfair to your wife so just consider it and keep it in mind. I don't want to rain on your parade but please be cautious in opening your heart. Posted via Mobile Device
DG,
I never saw a response from you about why she was "letting you have sex with her" for a while before the 2 year deep freeze. She told you she was hoping things would "get better" and then she "gave up" when they didn't. I asked you what she wanted. Do you really not know?
As for her motives here they seem very obvious. She is going to be VERY angry and shut down on you if you don't agree to DW. This seems fairly simple. She LETS you have sex with her just enough to get you to feel desire to please her. And then she gets her trip. How can you enjoy sex in that context?
So you're saying she's basically a prostitute. Turning tricks to get her Mickey Mouse fix.
Yeah..... I can see that. Posted via Mobile Device
Bandit,
I like you - really I do. But you just crossed a line here. It is not my place to "label" DG's wife. I really mean that. I am attempting to get him to see how he is creating a terrible and unworkable precedent if he allows a few rounds in bed to offset:
- 2 years of sexlessness AND
- Her clear and consistent message that she is not happy with him - followed by "I don't know what I want, and have no idea what either of us can do to make it better"
- The fact that they lack the net worth to afford an apartment if they want to separate
- The very ugly fact that right after sex she wanted him to leave her alone physically - this was a physical act she tolerated not a step toward emotionally connecting with him
I do think they are not even close to compatible. I also think that DG places such a high priority on her attractiveness that he is/was willing to be treated with disdain to keep her around.
I think she is and always has focused on "what he can do for her". That is ok as a component to a marriage, but if that is the SOLE DRIVER for being with someone, the outcome he has gotten to date is very much the norm.
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Originally Posted by bandit.45
So you're saying she's basically a prostitute. Turning tricks to get her Mickey Mouse fix.
Yeah..... I can see that. Posted via Mobile Device
Bandit,
I like you - really I do. But you just crossed a line here. It is not my place to "label" DG's wife. I really mean that. I am attempting to get him to see how he is creating a terrible and unworkable precedent if he allows a few rounds in bed to offset:
- 2 years of sexlessness AND
- Her clear and consistent message that she is not happy with him - followed by "I don't know what I want, and have no idea what either of us can do to make it better"
- The fact that they lack the net worth to afford an apartment if they want to separate
- The very ugly fact that right after sex she wanted him to leave her alone physically - this was a physical act she tolerated not a step toward emotionally connecting with him
I do think they are not even close to compatible. I also think that DG places such a high priority on her attractiveness that he is/was willing to be treated with disdain to keep her around.
I think she is and always has focused on "what he can do for her". That is ok as a component to a marriage, but if that is the SOLE DRIVER for being with someone, the outcome he has gotten to date is very much the norm.
You and I agree completely. But tell me this and be honest, what is the difference between what she is doing to DG to get him to cave to her demands and what a prostitute does for money?
Manipulation.... plain and simple. Sorry if I don't sugarcoat it enough for you.
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