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Best Gas-lighting Stories

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#1 ·
"I was really missing you, and he looks/acts just like you, so it was like I was with you." - except for the fact he was taller than me, wider than me, had lighter colored/less hair than me, wore glasses, was not as well endowed, drank way more than me, was a different military rank, and had a wife of 20 yrs, then yes I guess he was "just like me".
 
#9 ·
I am lucky. I never got any gaslighting. Well, not from my wife.

However my first girlfriend did gaslight me.

I got given a whole load of dribble about how "some loves were long, burning flames, but some were just loves that flared bright and died, quickly."

The truth was that she had been away for a visit to a friend, met a man who told her he was a millionaire property developer and she instantly fell in love with his money. Sorry, his charming personality. :D

And she decided to dump me for him, as I was only a lowly paid laboratory worker.

Only it turned out he was not a millionaire property developer at all, he was a penniless convicted fraudster who had the back bedroom of his mother's condemned two bedroom terraced house that was slap bang in the middle of the red light district of Leeds, in Yorkshire.

Oh, dear.:rolleyes:
 
#10 ·
Hmm, so many to pick from...

It was a mistake [lol, a 4 year mistake with 4 different men!]
It meant nothing [uhm, then why do it?]
I love you and didn't want to hurt you. [no she didn't, and yes she did]

But my favorite was....

"I'm sick of being just "ACOA's Wife" or "the kids mom". I was trying to find me." [What? Other men's penises are where women go to find themselves? Should write dummy's guide on that one. Idiot's guide to finding yourself! lol]
 
#12 · (Edited)
After cheating on me for a decade, infecting me with an STD, hiding the affair for more years, she finally fesses up and gives her reason for cheating so long and lying:

"I didn't think it would hurt anyone since you never said anything about it when I was cheaing. So that meant it was ok."

Right, since you were good at deception that means I approve?

I don't think so!
 
#15 ·
"You were gone, and I was lonely and starving for affection. And you said you were gonna divorce me."

So why didn't you move out, get your own place, and start paying your own bills when you started relationships with OM? "I was really hoping you would change your mind once you came back, and I didn't want to make a bunch of changes in how we (her and our son) live, just to have to go back to the way it was."
 
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"You were gone, and I was lonely and starving for affection. And you said you were gonna divorce me."
After finally, (with proof) of 6 years of serially cheating multiple OM...

Her "Our marriage was Broken".

Me "Do you think that my wife of 30 years having multiple affairs and Sex with OMs was a factor?".
 
#17 ·
My wife tried to tell me the hickeys I saw on her breasts were a rash, lol, and proceeded to scratch the carp out the supposed rash, where there were no scratches before.
The following week, after I did much google search on rashes, she tried to convince me I didn't see them on her breasts, but below, in the fold. Ironically, that's all google search turned up, a rash where she tried to make me believe my eyes were lying eyes, and I didn't really see them where I saw them.
 
#18 ·
I caught my husband logged into an escort website when he fell asleep while on his computer a few months ago. I went through his posts and he had reviews of prostitutes he was with that took place on the nights he was "working". When I confronted him about it first he said it wasn't him, then when I told him he was logged into the site so it had to be him he told me he made up the reviews so he could read more posts on the site. I told him he was married and shouldn't even be on an escort website.
 
#26 ·
"But she did have breasts that were so gigantically huge that she had to have her bras hand made in London."

Well, there's the problem. The weight of the breasts dug into her shoulders which caused pinched nerves. The pinched nerves caused her to hunch her shoulders and in the ensuing months she unintentionally deprived her brain of oxygen.
 
#28 ·
Gas lighting:

"What? No, I wasn't with him. "

"Yes I was with him."

"I didn't tell you because you'd freak out. "

"I wasn't with him. "

"You're a liar. "

All in one segment of text.

It is sinister and evil. Much more than lying as it is designed to make you feel crazy.

And 3, 4, 5 years later still with him. But no we weren't cheating a55hole.


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#29 ·
From a WW on another forum:

"You were not helping enough in the preparations for our daughter's wedding"

Seriously. Thats the explaination. Not even a complaint about the marriage or relationship. Just that.

So watch out guys. Remember to take out the garbage and grab maxi-pads next time you are at the store. If you don't, she may just bang another guy!
 
#30 ·
"We didn't have sex" "there is no possible way the kid is mine" "he doesn't look like me at all" "she slept with many people"
2 years later
"I could possibly have a child"
"I told you when we met I had slept with her and she was pregnant with my kid"
"I have always been honest that I had a child! I told you when we first met!"

Yeah....
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#39 ·
Holy Chit, I have been there!

"We didn't have sex" became "She just blew me" and then "there's no way the kid is mine" followed by "Kid doesn't look anything like me" and "she slept with so many people".

After the DNA test came back, he tried telling me her father was a former state politician (which he was) and rigged the test.

Cuz, yeah, you're a former politician who has a sl*t daughter that drags in 7 guys for DNA testing, you're totally gonna rig the test so that the one who is broke and has no future is the daddy....
 
#34 ·
I just got this one this morning
You know I have a lot of guy friends
He facetimed about something at work.
How do you know he facetimed me.
Me: Your ipad is connected with your apple id
How dare you look at my ipad
Me:eek:ur daughter had it like she always does she answered it and gave it to me.
To say the guy was surprised was an understatement.
Your paranoid nothing is going on.
Me: How much contact do you have with him(I saw the texts on the ipad over 2000 in 5 days)
She is the initiator of all the conversations
He just texts me when he is delivering to the store.
Your paranoid
She went back to work and hasn't even texted me as usual.
Guess she is trying to come up with a good excuse and getting her story straight with her friend
The look on her face was priceless
 
#35 ·
When I discovered his 1500 texts to this strange number in the town I knew she lived in on the phone bill I text him:

Me: Who’s number is 123-456-7890?

J: “It’s C-------“ (the ex gf I knew it was)

Me: “Why are you talking to her?”

J: “Oh, just about life, day to day stuff”

Me: “Like what?”

J: “I can’t remember”

Me: “You can’t remember anything?”

J: “Nope”

Me: “What pictures did you send?”

J: “I didn’t send any pictures”

Me: “I can see there were pictures sent on the phone bill”

J: “No, it converts a long message to media if the text is too long”

Me: “No it doesn’t”

J: “Yes it does”

Me: “So you sent messages that were long enough to convert to media, but you don’t remember what you talked about?”

J: “I keep telling you I don’t remember, you aren’t going to get me to remember by bringing it up over an over again”

Me: (After a phone call to her husband) “Her husband said she admitted to sending pictures, but they were just her sticking her tongue out”
J: “I never got those pictures, I didn’t get any pictures”

Me: “Why did you call her and talk for 10 minutes after I text you and asked who the number was?”

J: “I called and told her you knew we were talking and that you would probably call her and not to lie to you”

Me: “Why would you have to TELL her not to lie?”

J: “I don’t know, I just didn’t want her to lie”

Me: “It took you 10 minutes to tell her not to lie to me?”

J: “Well I guess it must have”
 
#37 ·
Yeah non stop from 5 am to 5 pm.
She called me on her way home from work like everorything was fine.
Got home been catching the cold shoulder.
That's her goto thing if we ever have a disagreement.
Sometimes you wonder if it's worth it to even bring up anything to a women it's like they go back to being 4 years old. I should have listened to the older guys i work with and never got married.
All of them told me once your married a woman will suck your soul out of you and leave you a miserable human being
 
#42 ·
Oh, so many...

"All our friends know our marriage has been over for a long time." (I didn't get that memo, apparently.)

"She's just someone I might be interested in." (They had f***ed several times at that point.)

"It just happened." (She tripped and fell on his d*** repeatedly, I guess.)

"If it wasn't her, it would have been someone else. She was just a catalyst." (Somehow I don't think she'd bee too happy if she knew that's what he thinks of her.)

"I told you hundreds of times how unhappy I was!" (He never told me once, not even when I asked him if he was unhappy.)

"Her husband was an alcoholic, died in a car crash probably because he was drunk, and had treated her badly for years." (That's a good reason to f*** someone who isn't your wife after having just met her at a funeral.)

"She has two grown children, herself, so she says, 'The children come first.'" (No, I'm fairly certain she does. Literally and figuratively.)
 
#43 ·
My most classic gas light attempt?

I literally walk in on him and a "friend" of mine, his tongue down her throat and his hand up her (very short) skirt and he says "It's not what it looks like! She was upset and I was trying to hug her so she'd feel better." with a straight face.
 
#45 · (Edited)
As she is packing for a business trip to a city where a former OM now lives, I discover a box of condoms. When I ask who are the condoms for, she says "they are for me when I use my vibrator".

I wasn't even sure she had packed a vibrator and why would you need condoms on a vibrator unless you planned to share it with someone else!
 
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#48 ·
"I literally walk in on him and a "friend" of mine, his tongue down her throat and his hand up her (very short) skirt and he says "It's not what it looks like! She was upset and I was trying to hug her so she'd feel better." with a straight face." Let's see - back/privates - totally interchangeable, got it.

"As she is packing for a business trip to a city where a former OM now lives, I discover a box of condoms. When I ask who are the condoms for, she says "they are for me when I use my vibrator"." Yep, wouldn't want to pick up any diseases from her own vibrator.:laugh:

I don't know, but I can't decide which one is the more egregious. Obviously, they both thought their spouses were idiots. No offense, but they are really good for laughs. As in a shaking of the head and muttering "WTH" kind of way.
 
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Me: "where have you been, it's almost midnight on a weekday and you are just getting home?"
Her: "we had to do show prep by going to a movie, then back to his place to prepare our review, stop criticizing me for working on my job that supports this family, you said I should contribute more!"
 
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