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Re: Affair Helpers and CoHorts
I read your opening post and nothing else. If this has been said please forgive me for duplicating advice. I see some problems here, and they will come back to haunt you. If your wife has kept these people in her life, well, she isn't remorseful. A person who is completely remorseful will feel your pain, they won't try to add more pain to what you already feel. Yes, I used the word try, because your wife is actually trying to hurt you by keeping cheerleaders to her bad choices. Seems she has made another bad choice by keeping communication going even after six years. My take on your wife is she might be regretful of the affair, but I think she is more sorry she was caught then anything.
You might want to reevaluate your reconciliation. You might want to establish new boundaries. At the very least you pull each of these two aside and explain your wife lied, they fell for it, but advising one to gain happiness by cheating is just too ignorant of advice that you can't remain in any form of communication. As you walk them to the door be sure to mention how nice it was that they advised your wife to have an affair to their spouses.
It seems like your wife went to many to justify her affair, by chance has she also told her family she had an affair. If she did, did they also enable her or advise her she should be happy? Just curious.
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