Re: Affair Helpers and CoHorts
Sometimes I wish you guys would quit bullshyting yourselves by, "they are showing remorse". This is one of those times. What you're seeing, if its anything other than an a act, is regret--- wishing they didn't get caught, caused them emotionally or financially problems, led to punishment, embarrassment and loss of reputation or put a stop to their activities. This regret is the pain they feel for themselves and not the pain they caused you.
Remorse is something that comes long after the fact, involves shame, contemplating, with a sense of guilt and sorrow, the damage you alone done to the person who believed in you, taking full responsibility for your actions. A remorseful person will avoid doing the hurtful action again.
Yet how many times have you heard, "my spouse and I are in a "R". He/she is showing remorse but has broke the no contact agreement and is now hugging the phone".