11-07-2011, 02:42 PM
Join Date: Aug 2011
| | Re: Boundries are important
WH and I talked about ALL of those things before we got married. I was very clear with what was and wasn't acceptable for me. However, he found a way to do it all secretly and now he's lying about it, despite proof, and denying that things are the way they seem.
I agree that having a strong understanding about how to behave in some of those situations is important...but, sometimes, you don't know if your spouse truly does value the marriage as much as they claim to and sometimes, you don't know if the spouse is going to give up personal privileges to protect that marriage.
However, it's good advice for people to discuss those things prior to getting married and also keeping an eye out for transgressive behavior about those things!