Re: My wife the liar, how could she do this to me.
Lots of shaming going on here. Attacks based on his Christian faith are quite hollow to me.....People, it got you stoned to death in the old testament, don't be throwing stones at him.
Re: My wife the liar, how could she do this to me.
I am not sure why this issue is such a contentious one. No one of us would takes being deceived in any area in our lives lightly, especially when it comes to love and lifetime committment. We would also take issue if our belief system were attacked. I think he has a right to his beliefs, he seems to be a good man and a husband any woman would cherish. So where is the problem??
The way I see it is that the deep love that develops after the honeymoon phase, is based on seeing a mates faults and authentic self and loving them anyway. He appears to have made that wonderful transition. So where is the problem??
I would go so far as to say that this man was not only decieved but defrauded. His wife hid an important part of herself and therefore, by the nature of her deception, denied him love and the full acceptance of an intimate relationship. This is no small thing and is really tragic because he was good and devoted and for his reward he is humiliated and disrespected. That is the problem.
The issue of whether or not sex before marriage or a woman's choice to have sex is ok or the nature of his Christian beliefs, does not figure into it. Posted via Mobile Device
Re: My wife the liar, how could she do this to me.
Some of you are forgetting that some of the men that she sleep with were people that they knew and socialized with. That he spoke to these OM at parties where they knew that they had sleep with his wife and that the husband did not know. It was a big secret that people he knew including these OM kept from him. He was on the outside and everyone else including these OM were on the inside.
Because of his strong religious conviction he was a virgin when he got married. He thought that she was the same. He probably over the years mentioned the fact that they were both virgins with pride in conversation to people, many of whom (including the other men that she slept with) knew otherwise as they kept the secret; some may have been laughing about it when they told others. He is imagining that they may have said things such as "he thinks that he and his marriage are so holy, little does he know, hehehe, and boy did she give a good BJ". He is imagining that much of what he said about his faith was laughed off by people that knew about the secret. He was made to be everyone's fool by her.
Another thing. How would you feel about it if your wife had been socializing with ex-lovers at parties without her having told you her history with them? You would feel betrayed and pissed and with good reason. His religious conviction does not give his wife a pass on this.
Re: My wife the liar, how could she do this to me.
just like smopking weed, drinking alcohol, stealing, lieing..adultry and infidelity/Lust...has always been a moral issue that human beings should obstain from. trying to be a godo person is the key, don't do bad things, even if the devil whispers bad things into your ears or your head bringing evil desires..restrain from them. SEX IS GOOD when you're Married, besides that it's a trick and the end is worse then what you may feel in that sec. peace...even if you feel good. Good things are good things bad things are bad things, Adultry is a very bad thing.peace!Lol:!) So is premarital intercourse for many reasons too.peacE!lol:!)
Re: My wife the liar, how could she do this to me.
There is also his statement that his wife said to him she did not regret having had sex with them because she became a better person for it ( ). She obviously has a different set of beliefs than he was lead to believe, by her. Granted that his wife may be another mother Teresa and many a betrayed husband would like to have as a wife, but that takes a back seat to her lying and deceiving.
Re: My wife the liar, how could she do this to me.
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There is also his statement that his wife said to him she did not regret having had sex with them because she became a better person for it ( ). She obviously has a different set of beliefs than he was lead to believe, by her.
Good point. Hard for him to forgive when she has no remorse.
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Granted that his wife may be another mother Teresa and many a betrayed husband would like to have as a wife, but that takes a back seat to her lying and deceiving.
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There is also his statement that his wife said to him she did not regret having had sex with them because she became a better person for it ( ). She obviously has a different set of beliefs than he was lead to believe, by her. Granted that his wife may be another mother Teresa and many a betrayed husband would like to have as a wife, but that takes a back seat to her lying and deceiving.
Really?..ha. she could not only be lieing to him, but she might also be lieing to herself if she thinks Adultry has made her a better person lol! PEace!Lol:!)
Re: My wife the liar, how could she do this to me.
you knopw everyone is flawed..she mgith have lied it's between her and the 1 and only..In my religion of Islam...you must be merciful to others in order to have God's mercya nd be accepted into ehaven. If she's a faithful loving wife, adn she wants to be forgiven for lieing to you and allowing something liek this to happen. have mercy... you might ruin a godo thing if we are all not merciful. May God guide you and your family, and lets hope only good thinsg happen now. Btw, having sex before marriage is definitly a big no no, have mercy God willing, if she wants to be with you forever god willingoklol..peacE! asalaam oklol..peace!Lo;0!
Re: My wife the liar, how could she do this to me. 
). She obviously has a different set of beliefs than he was lead to believe, by her. Granted that his wife may be another mother Teresa and many a betrayed husband would like to have as a wife, but that takes a back seat to her lying and deceiving.
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! PEace!Lol:!)
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