Right now, I don't care about others comments towards me for what I am about to say to you. I do hope that you will respond.
1. Stop looking at your wife like she is some type of Lying *****! Nut Job!
2. I am also God Fearing Man, my faith runs real deep yet I have seen 1st hand my so called brothers and sisters in christ! comment the worst of sins under the sun! Especially those surrounding sexual morals and ethics. You are the one with too many issues, not your Wife??. A Virgin??? Your wife is not Mary! what on earth is wrong with you?? The simple fact of her being a virgin only means, she is that less experienced and God forbid has only known sexual bliss from only one man. Not, as if that is a bad thing but I would want my wife to be somewhat balanced.
4. But, I heard your exception to the rule, yet, really, how many lovers did your wife have before you got married? Was she the Town *****? If not! Stop acting like it! Before you loose her for good.
5. Yes, you feel betrayed, taken advantage of, lied to, etc etc etc , all of those are tough emotions to deal with, yet none of which done in malice! I believe your Wife truly Loves YOU! you knuckle head, she has to, to have given birth (as painful as that is) to your now beautiful children.
6. Think about it, despite the Men she was formerly with, she choose YOU! Take comfort in that, and, Eat her food, break bread with your wife! who in turn helps to make you a better man!
7. I don't know your faith, catholic, seventh day advent, Baptist, Methodist, Non Denominational or Mormon? It would help me if I knew the foundation your reasoning rest upon, because obviously it has nothing to do with forgiveness! Just Ego, like you are without some sort of Sin? I've seen this behavior before, The I have sinned, but not that kinda of Sin? Excuse. Sin is Sin, Broken fellowship with God is broken fellowship, but its not forever, hell! some are restored the same day the offense is made.
8. As it is Written : "Come now and let us reason together, says the LORD, though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall be as wool." (Isaiah 1:18) "For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is His mercy toward those who fear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us." (Psalm 103:11-12) I also conclude, he says, "and remembers it no more!
*So, stop recalling it in your mind, stop the negative role playing your are putting yourself through, forgive, forget, move on!
*Yet , ye continue to Judge? As it is written: "But why do you judge your brother(Inclusive Noun) ? Or why do you show contempt for your brother(Sister as well) ? For we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ!" (Romans 14:10)
(10) Listen, you don't have to judge your fellow Christians' lives, God will do this at the Judgment Seat of Christ. At that judgment we will not be judged to see if we are saved, but for rewards we will receive for our life of service after salvation. In 2 Corinthians 5:10 we see this same thing: "For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad." God has given us talents and gifts to use for Him in this life, so we are very accountable to Him.
Finally: I've gone out with alot of different women in the past, of many nationalities, attitudes, beliefs, etc and what I found in all, was who can be to me, my best friend! Who will stand by my side during hardships, struggles, moments of doubt? Who shall infuse strength in me besides God, when I am at my lowest? She did not come to me unblemished! She was not as I pictured her to be?
Nope! she was indeed my opposite! in many things but strong on the core principals I believe in. She turned out to be a hippi! and one hell of a great medical RN. I am thankful to God! for her, for as long as she chooses! to be remained by my side. She is what I asked God for, someone who is not easily turned by the words of men! Not easily seduced, Strong, willing to fight! A Good Mother! who takes care of her family.
I am assured that God placed your wife in your path to meet your needs, Pray that your are lucky she still decides to hear fathers voice.