Follow the advice posted, do not let your wife know what you are doing. Move fast on the exposure to the OM's wife but have evidence ready, look for more information on him such as his place of work and friends , if his wife does not actively work to stop him expose his waywardness further afield. Call your wife's parents and siblings and ask for help in saving your marriage , it is important that this is done correctly and not construed as you being mean.
You have one decent shot at bring this affair into an uncomfortable light and helping it crash , don't mess it up.
As your wife is using a secure company laptop I suggest you prepare an exposure letter to be sent to her boss, the HR director and the chairman. Why ? Few companies like publicity, they should restrict her ability to take this underground using their equipment. Will she lose her job? Maybe though in most instances a warning is issued .
Go out and buy some VAR's now. One you carry on you to protect yourself if she makes false allegations , the other you hide securely in her car .
Run that 180 , it helps you control yourself , see a doctor for advice and lean on those family who you can trust to support you . Do not alert anyone as to your steps.
I suspect your wife is on a pro affair site , they will be advising her what to do , including gas lighting you to her family in case you expose , waywards fear exposure and if done right has a huge negative impact on their affair word.
Don't move out , see a lawyer , never mention divorce and take that OM down . Posted via Mobile Device
Only once the affair is dead can you consider rebuilding the marriage or if you chose take a different direction in life , while there is an OM in the picture rational discussion with your wife is a waste of time as is any MC.
Your marriage can be saved if you can stop this soon , work on improving yourself , body mind and soul . Assume you made mistakes in your marriage and correct them however your wife is 100 percent responsable for the affair , she had many choices and she chose wrong. Posted via Mobile Device
When a wife is secretely trying to destroy her husband you have to ask yourself why should I try to save this marriage?
Face it, even with a remorseful wife willing to move heaven and earth to keep her husband from leaving her, emotional recovery from the ordeal of marital betrayal may take YEARS for the husband to recover from and it may never happen.
part of me wants to sign up for that AM site (the site is filtered here) and create several false accounts and expose all of the cheaters who contact me
When a wife is secretely trying to destroy her husband you have to ask yourself why should I try to save this marriage?
Face it, even with a remorseful wife willing to move heaven and earth to keep her husband from leaving her, emotional recovery from the ordeal of marital betrayal may take YEARS for the husband to recover from and it may never happen.
Unremorseful=Unworthy=Divorce.
The is the crux of it right here. Last night she told me that even though she knows this is wrong she does not feel guilty because she is angry at me.
The really ****ed up part? As she was leaving for work this morning she came over and gave me a kiss and said bye.
part of me wants to sign up for that AM site (the site is filtered here) and create several false accounts and expose all of the cheaters who contact me
I know the web site and her username. I signed up for it but haven't had much of a chance to really see what is going on there.
As I said in an earlier post I glanced through several emails from guys from this site, not just the OM. I am beginning to think she is really spreading herself around on this site.
This morning she dressed in all matching bra/underwear/clothes. I haven't seen her do that in a really long time. I am feeling pretty low this morning.
And she will continue to control what is happened as long as you do nothing . Posted via Mobile Device
I am working from home today so my plan is to contact a divorce attorney and get some advice on what my next step should be.
I think I am going to scout some near by apartments as well to see what is available.
I want to thank you guys for keeping me focused. The kiss was very distracting and I suspect is was used to keep her in control. She made it very clear in the chat room last night that she is over me. I also saw in the emails this morning that she mentioned a few times that "...this makes me wish my marriage would fail".
Your response to her telling you that she doesn't know if she can stop talking to him, has now allowed her to move forward with the affair. Expect it to become physical. You have now told her (with your actions) that its acceptable for her to cuckold you. You have opened yourself up for a lot of pain.
What you should have done, based on her last comment, was to tell her that you will be seeing a lawyer and filing for divorce. Then you need to expose the affair to her family and your family and friends. Separate finances.
If you have already taken these steps. Please ignore this post.
I am confused ; your moving out , why is she not leaving? Have you exposed to her parents and work . What your wife is doing is no different to what those in affairs do and all your doing is going to Plan D . Posted via Mobile Device
Your response to her telling you that she doesn't know if she can stop talking to him, has now allowed her to move forward with the affair. Expect it to become physical. You have now told her (with your actions) that its acceptable for her to cuckold you. You have opened yourself up for a lot of pain.
What you should have done, based on her last comment, was to tell her that you will be seeing a lawyer and filing for divorce. Then you need to expose the affair to her family and your family and friends. Separate finances.
Thanks for the feedback. The only reason I choose to move out is because of the kids. She has two sons from a previous marriage and it is extremely unfair to them to have their mom leave. The only way I see this situation to work is for me to leave. I am going to do everything I can to take my son with me.
Before any of this is done I will be contacting a divorce attorney to make sure I do this correctly.
Re: Wife is have an long distance EA 
