Shaggy

I think it's hard for men to handle things like this because we are taught that to attract women we need to be kind to them.

So when we see ourselves loosing our woman we try to fall back to being kind with the hope that she'll remember how it was when they chose to be with us.

Unfortunately when in a EA or PA, out women aren't trying to see the good in us, instead they view us as the enemy keeping them from their chosen man.

That's why playing it soft actually just enables the affair and drives them into the OM arms.

See the game has changed when you've married. Being sweet and kind woo her was what you did to first get her, but after that she's yours' and the strategy must **** to being the protector who will not accept and will defend threats to take her away.

that's why standing up for the marriage and yourself and not accepting any straying at all is the right strategy to follow.

Dadof3

Cafe: If I might explain the concerns with payments on bills - etc - if you kick her out - you explain to her that while married, no matter what she does / lives, she's still responsible for half and you WILL hold her to it. She may not pay them now - but she will with the Divorce settlement. Do you live in an at fault state?

I thought the statement you made about how she dressed this morning (all matching including underwear and bra) would tell me that she's got something going local. Matter of fact - she maybe engaged with multiple affairs (that might be local - or have been made available locally - today)

You need to MAN up now. This is when it counts. Anything she is using to have her affairs need to come from her pockets strictly - no cost sharing here.

Get this one shut down and allow no more disrespect. Tell her where the door is and not to let it hit her in the ASZ.

This is where you will lose or gain respect from your child together, but hers too. Don't count on MIL being on your side either.

Expose, expose, expose! Without telling her you are doing this.

Good luck!